[QuickTidal]

Abyss, on 28 June 2016 - 03:00 PM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 28 June 2016 - 02:44 PM, said:

... Please tell me it gets better ...

Generally this is how it works...

Right now you feel like crap.

A week from now, you will still feel like crap.

A week or two after that you feel less like crap, then remember why you felt like crap and resume feeling like the original crap.

A week or two after that, you will still feel like crap, but less crap. You will remember how crap you felt and feel better about feeling less crap than you felt.

A week or two after that something will happen and you will feel like crap all over again.

BUT, in less time than above, typically only days, not weeks, you will feel less crap.

And shortly after that, even less.

You may feel like crap again, but only briefly. Maybe a day or two.

And shortly after that you will look back at how crap you felt at the start of the mess and decide that you feel better now. You remember the crap, but it's a memory, not a feeling.

And it gets better after that.

^^This.

And then AFTER that, you're life will move on to something (or more than one thing) new to be excited about, and the more of those that you get, the better it will be.

[Arthur Dayne]

It took me 5 years.

5.

Years.

TAKE YOUR TIME OR YOU WILL BRING ALL THE BITTERNESS OF 1000 SUNS ON THE NEXT POOR WOMAN YOU THINK YOU CARE ABOUT.

Seriously, it does get better.

Also, you're always welcome to come to St. Louis and I have family in Colorado Springs. Beer is plentiful.

[JPK]

We are scheduled to start induction for the Mrs in four hours. She is not happy about this at all. It's proving a challenge to try to keep her positive about this. Fuck.

[Coltaine -]

You will manage it Kitsu, I'm sure.

[Gust Hubb]

Thx all. I started wondering five years ago, listening to the sound track for the Last Five Years musical. I remember that being when I was worried. I was right, and listening to the sound track again is ripping out my soul. "I do" is so easily shattered, promises of until death do we part nullified. How can anyone trust love? I found my miracle, my lady that appeared when I wasn't looking. And she was fucking lesbian. What did I do to deserve this? I was faithful, I compromised, I was a good husband. And it all died.

[Gust Hubb]

I really hate this world

[worry]

Can't argue with that. But since you have kids, and you seem dedicated to them, you pretty much have to fake it for now, for them. As time passes, hopefully, you'll find yourself having to fake it less. At the very least, do your best to see your kids don't have to.

[Slow Ben]

Just found out a guy I used to work with killed himself today.

He had 4 kids in their 20's. I wish I knew what he thought was so bad he couldn't handle it.

Looking at pictures of him in the last few months and he didn't look good. I wonder if something was wrong and he didn't want to face it. Or put his family through it.

He was also a veteran, a Navy Seal, but he didn't talk about it.

Who fucking knows.

[worry]

Slow Ben, on 29 June 2016 - 03:39 AM, said:

Just found out a guy I used to work with killed himself today.

He had 4 kids in their 20's. I wish I knew what he thought was so bad he couldn't handle it.

Looking at pictures of him in the last few months and he didn't look good. I wonder if something was wrong and he didn't want to face it. Or put his family through it.

He was also a veteran, a Navy Seal, but he didn't talk about it.

Who fucking knows.

http://undark.org/ar...ogy-depression/

[Morgoth]

They're tearing down a building maybe 50 metres from my apartment. On one level it's great. It was an eysore and now there'll be another apartment building there instead. The value of my place will increase.

However, they did start the work at 5 am this morning. Fuck those people.

[Morgoth]

Coonass, on 29 June 2016 - 06:46 AM, said:

There's noise restriction laws in city limits here. No boom boom bang bang here till 8:00 am unless your boss wants a ticket

Here too. I'm guessing they think they'll be quick enough to avoid consequences.

[Una]

My sewing machine died. Something's jammed or out of alignment. Oiling it was no help. The manual was no help. Google was no help. It basically told me to take it to a technician and I could expect to pay about $400 for time and spare parts. Taking a screwdriver to it and trying to assess all the moving parts as best I could was no help. Letting my mechanical engineer boyfriend have a go at it did not help. I am loathe to have a technician look at it and charge me any more than $50 for a machine that was purchased for around $150 about 10 years ago.

I never really like that machine anyways. I got it as a gift when I was a student. It is poorly designed, clunky, loud, and the biggest problem was that it was not ergonomic. It's so bulky that If you sit upright, the body of the machine sort of blocks your view, so you have to hunch over to sew. The main reason I kept using it was because I felt bad ditching it when my parents picked it out for me and was "working fine". So now it's not working at all and I am totally justified in getting an upgrade, right? You can get fancy computerized machines now that will thread automatically and automatically adjust your tension and stitch settings. You can get machines that have, like, 100 built-in stitch patterns and make buttonholes with the flick of a switch. My mind is buzzing with all the possibilities.

So I read all the reviews and I get my heart set on a particular model. Guess what? The manufacturer's website does not ship to Canada and advises you to seek an authorized retailer. Canadian stores don't carry this model. Walmart USA has it, but Walmart Canada does not, for example. Target Canada is an authorized retailer in Canada, according to the manufacturer's website, but they folded more than a year ago. The only option is Amazon.ca, and they are selling it for 75CAD more than what it sells it for in the US. I checked Amazon.com and the import and shipping fees came out to 80 USD, so that's even worse. I can't even order it from a US website and ship it to one of those mailboxes in Point Roberts or Blaine because my passport expired.


I have a half-finished, flowy, ankle length, yellow sundress that I want to wear right now because the weather is finally warming up and I can't until I figure out what to do! Grrrrr!

[Morgoth]

I've over the last few days been hit with the strangest form of delayed sadness I've experienced. I broke it off with a girl in late April. We had a perfectly pleasant relationship, in some ways quite great, but it never seemed to me to gain that certain spark. My issues mainly, I think.

It was still rough to break up, I genuinely cared for her and it hurt me to hurt her, but I figured it was better for the both of us in the long run. Afterwards I felt relieved. I knew I had made the right choice.

Then out of the blue a couple of days ago I was slammed with an almost overpowering sense of regret. It was so sudden, so powerful I just had to sit down. And I can't figure put where the hell it's coming from. I've not forgotten my reasons for breaking up, they seem no less potent than before, and yet something inside me has decided now, two months after the fact, that it's really upset about the whole thing. What the hell?

You know, having been in the same relationship for almost the entirety of my twenties, I guess I never got around to experiencing this sort of stuff. Maybe I'm just being hit with what most people work through in their early twenties.

[Macros]

I split up with a girl 2 years ago, we had only been going out for about a year. I still think about her, that's the way the human brain works it would seem.
To quote Avi, who looks forward to pledging next semester, "love eh? It's a mother fucker"


What's messing with my groove.
When you say to someone you'll call them back later that day with details on something.
Call back later that day. Don't leave me chasing up two fucking days later.
Also, baffled by the ladyfolk. But there's nothing new there

[Morgoth]

And of course I stumpled onto her on the subway. I'm a lovesick goddamn teenager.

[QuickTidal]

Morgoth, on 29 June 2016 - 08:43 AM, said:

I've over the last few days been hit with the strangest form of delayed sadness I've experienced. I broke it off with a girl in late April. We had a perfectly pleasant relationship, in some ways quite great, but it never seemed to me to gain that certain spark. My issues mainly, I think.

It was still rough to break up, I genuinely cared for her and it hurt me to hurt her, but I figured it was better for the both of us in the long run. Afterwards I felt relieved. I knew I had made the right choice.

Then out of the blue a couple of days ago I was slammed with an almost overpowering sense of regret. It was so sudden, so powerful I just had to sit down. And I can't figure put where the hell it's coming from. I've not forgotten my reasons for breaking up, they seem no less potent than before, and yet something inside me has decided now, two months after the fact, that it's really upset about the whole thing. What the hell?

You know, having been in the same relationship for almost the entirety of my twenties, I guess I never got around to experiencing this sort of stuff. Maybe I'm just being hit with what most people work through in their early twenties.

I had felt this EXACT thing (and same deal, months after breakup) with two different women I dated in my 20's...and in BOTH cases I went back to them thinking that it was my mind telling me I'd made a mistake to leave them (and then shortly realized I'd broken up with them for the correct reasons)...trust your original judgement...don't listen to the new yearnings. The human mind is an asshole sometimes. LOL

[Slow Ben]

QuickTidal, on 30 June 2016 - 03:33 PM, said:

Morgoth, on 29 June 2016 - 08:43 AM, said:

I've over the last few days been hit with the strangest form of delayed sadness I've experienced. I broke it off with a girl in late April. We had a perfectly pleasant relationship, in some ways quite great, but it never seemed to me to gain that certain spark. My issues mainly, I think.

It was still rough to break up, I genuinely cared for her and it hurt me to hurt her, but I figured it was better for the both of us in the long run. Afterwards I felt relieved. I knew I had made the right choice.

Then out of the blue a couple of days ago I was slammed with an almost overpowering sense of regret. It was so sudden, so powerful I just had to sit down. And I can't figure put where the hell it's coming from. I've not forgotten my reasons for breaking up, they seem no less potent than before, and yet something inside me has decided now, two months after the fact, that it's really upset about the whole thing. What the hell?

You know, having been in the same relationship for almost the entirety of my twenties, I guess I never got around to experiencing this sort of stuff. Maybe I'm just being hit with what most people work through in their early twenties.

I had felt this EXACT thing (and same deal, months after breakup) with two different women I dated in my 20's...and in BOTH cases I went back to them thinking that it was my mind telling me I'd made a mistake to leave them (and then shortly realized I'd broken up with them for the correct reasons)...trust your original judgement...don't listen to the new yearnings. The human mind is an asshole sometimes. LOL

Thiiiiis.

You're mind is screwing with you.

I've been down this path, trust your original judgement.

[Macros]

Dont listen to them Morgy, grab your axe and helmet, launch the longboats.
GET HER BACK!!!

[Abyss]

No no no. The answer is drink.

Drink to forget.

[Morgoth]

 Macros, on 30 June 2016 - 05:43 PM, said:

Dont listen to them Morgy, grab your axe and helmet, launch the longboats.
GET HER BACK!!!

I fear that a lot of this is based on how absurdly gorgeous she is. So my ancestors would agree