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What's messing with your groove?

#20301 User is offline   Tiste Simeon 

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Posted 19 June 2016 - 08:41 PM

 worry, on 18 June 2016 - 07:30 PM, said:

The Oakland PD's weird murder/suicide/child trafficking/rape/prostitution scandal is absolutely horrifyingly bonkers.
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#20302 User is offline   amphibian 

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Posted 19 June 2016 - 10:14 PM

 Andorion, on 19 June 2016 - 04:39 PM, said:

 amphibian, on 19 June 2016 - 04:21 PM, said:

 Gust Hubb, on 19 June 2016 - 01:43 PM, said:

 amphibian, on 19 June 2016 - 07:27 AM, said:

Lady I was sure about eventually marrying ended our relationship today because she's in transition in a lot of different ways and felt like things were getting too intense for her.

This one hurts more than all the rest put together. This one really hurts.

Sorry man. Is it truly fully over or is there a chance of hiatus?

She's going to move across the country for a three month stretch and then come back. The general sense of what she is saying is that this + breaking up with her previous significant other back in January, yet they are still trying to be friends has her in a strange place where she's not ready to jump in full bore yet.

So yeah, she wants to put this on hiatus. But how many hiatuses do you know relationships coming back from?


I feel really bad for you especially knowing how excited you were about this relationship. But it seems she has a few things she has to work through and requires space. In a way, it may actually be a good thing that she realizes she is not ready to commit yet, because if you were going strong in a longer relationship with somebody who was internally conflicted, I imagine the subsequent consequences would have been even more unpleasant.

Stay strong, we are here for you. And keep an open mind on this.

Also its going to hurt. But don't blame yourself. and don't keep it bottled up. Letting it out can be cathartic.

Thanks. I'm still a bit hopeful that she is indeed needing some time and space to get to a place where she is ready to commit, but I'll take care of myself and continue getting better at things in my life. Not going to date for a while.
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#20303 User is offline   Gust Hubb 

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Posted 19 June 2016 - 11:24 PM

 amphibian, on 19 June 2016 - 10:14 PM, said:

 Andorion, on 19 June 2016 - 04:39 PM, said:

 amphibian, on 19 June 2016 - 04:21 PM, said:

 Gust Hubb, on 19 June 2016 - 01:43 PM, said:

 amphibian, on 19 June 2016 - 07:27 AM, said:

Lady I was sure about eventually marrying ended our relationship today because she's in transition in a lot of different ways and felt like things were getting too intense for her.

This one hurts more than all the rest put together. This one really hurts.

Sorry man. Is it truly fully over or is there a chance of hiatus?

She's going to move across the country for a three month stretch and then come back. The general sense of what she is saying is that this + breaking up with her previous significant other back in January, yet they are still trying to be friends has her in a strange place where she's not ready to jump in full bore yet.

So yeah, she wants to put this on hiatus. But how many hiatuses do you know relationships coming back from?


I feel really bad for you especially knowing how excited you were about this relationship. But it seems she has a few things she has to work through and requires space. In a way, it may actually be a good thing that she realizes she is not ready to commit yet, because if you were going strong in a longer relationship with somebody who was internally conflicted, I imagine the subsequent consequences would have been even more unpleasant.

Stay strong, we are here for you. And keep an open mind on this.

Also its going to hurt. But don't blame yourself. and don't keep it bottled up. Letting it out can be cathartic.

Thanks. I'm still a bit hopeful that she is indeed needing some time and space to get to a place where she is ready to commit, but I'll take care of myself and continue getting better at things in my life. Not going to date for a while.

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Posted 20 June 2016 - 12:04 AM

That sucks Amph.

Hope it works out in the end.
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Posted 22 June 2016 - 09:24 PM

Reading the brexit thread, I find myself arguing politics on the Internet again. I've only been out of that for about 3 months after almost 2.5 years of obsessing, and now it's pulling me in again. Ugh.
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And I want to state that Ment has out-weaseled me by far in this game.
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Posted 22 June 2016 - 09:58 PM

Haha, I'll put Denver on the list of places to go and sincerely, I thank you all for the good words.

The lady and I have had some brief talks since and things may go either way. Kinda depends on her and some stuff going on in her life. I'm going to take care of business, hang out with friends, and have a good summer.
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Posted 22 June 2016 - 10:13 PM

 amphibian, on 22 June 2016 - 09:58 PM, said:

I'm going to take care of business, hang out with friends, and have a good summer.


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Posted 23 June 2016 - 03:00 AM

 Mentalist, on 22 June 2016 - 09:24 PM, said:

Reading the brexit thread, I find myself arguing politics on the Internet again. I've only been out of that for about 3 months after almost 2.5 years of obsessing, and now it's pulling me in again. Ugh.


Just to make sure I have some real crap to whinge about, I got caught by a back hand (or elbow) in the face in outdoor. Got a prominent yet tiny cut on my nose, it's not too bad. My left nostril won't stop bleeding though. it's not a major bleed, but it drips from time to time, so keeping a cotton wad in to avoid wiping it off every min or so.

it's swelling up. apparently if it looks bruised tom, it may be broken and then i have to go get it checked out. ugh.
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View PostJump Around, on 23 October 2011 - 11:04 AM, said:

And I want to state that Ment has out-weaseled me by far in this game.
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Posted 23 June 2016 - 03:08 AM

 worry, on 22 June 2016 - 10:13 PM, said:

 amphibian, on 22 June 2016 - 09:58 PM, said:

I'm going to take care of business, hang out with friends, and have a good summer.


Can I sign your yearbook?

A squirrel came into the house and crapped on my bed while I was at work. I assumed this was your doing after I didn't answer the yearbook question.

Yes, you can sign it. Got a mailing address?
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Posted 23 June 2016 - 09:02 PM

That sucks amphibian and I hope it all works out for you. There are some things you should keep in mind though. If she just broke up with someone in January then you guys have only been together 5 months maximum. This is not a very long time and this is also the time period where all relationships are so great and seem so perfect and destined for a happy ending. During this time period you have obviously fallen in love and pictured a future together while she has been making plans to move away briefly and is still carrying feelings for a very recent ex. I am genuinely not trying to be an ass I am just saying that from an outsiders perspective, and with the very limited amount of details I have, it seems that at the very least this was not the right time in this girls life to have met you. I hope all goes well I just don't want you to get too tied up in waiting around for someone who seems to have a lot in her life that is holding her back from being 100% in the relationship with you. Everyone deserves 100%.
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Posted 23 June 2016 - 09:33 PM

 RACHEL, on 23 June 2016 - 09:02 PM, said:

That sucks amphibian and I hope it all works out for you. There are some things you should keep in mind though. If she just broke up with someone in January then you guys have only been together 5 months maximum. This is not a very long time and this is also the time period where all relationships are so great and seem so perfect and destined for a happy ending. During this time period you have obviously fallen in love and pictured a future together while she has been making plans to move away briefly and is still carrying feelings for a very recent ex. I am genuinely not trying to be an ass I am just saying that from an outsiders perspective, and with the very limited amount of details I have, it seems that at the very least this was not the right time in this girls life to have met you. I hope all goes well I just don't want you to get too tied up in waiting around for someone who seems to have a lot in her life that is holding her back from being 100% in the relationship with you. Everyone deserves 100%.

It's been about six weeks since I met her for the first time. It's a ridiculously short period of time, I know.

Context: I am 30 and have had two committed and long term relationships previously. She's 26 and has had one relationship before. The entire five weeks has been straight up terrifying in how intense and readily we clicked in a way that wasn't co-dependent or messed up in some way. I now am getting to see some of how she copes with serious problems and lesser bumps in the road and I'm mostly ok with it and I think she's mostly ok with how I deal with it too. But we have put things on a slow down for now.

I get what you mean about 100% and I'm basically waiting to see if this uncertainty goes away after a couple things get dealt with in the next month or if it stays around. If it stays around, I'm out. That 100% is indeed important to me and as great as she is, everyone does indeed deserve 100%.

Thanks for the good words.
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Posted 23 June 2016 - 10:11 PM

That squirrel gave 100% and yet is somehow the villain of the story. SMDH.
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Posted 23 June 2016 - 10:48 PM

Following political commentary and realising just how selfish a lot of people are.

Conversation surrounding the NHS and its future, and someone wades in with "Fuck the NHS. It's awful (insert bad experience here) - I only go private these days, I would be glad to see it go."

Don't get me wrong, bad experiences tar everyone's opinion of various things. But seriously, your selfish existence is so much more important than everyone else that you want a service others rely on for healthcare to go, just so you can sit in your ivory tower and feel smug? Because *you* can afford to do without it, everyone else should do the same or just lump it and take themselves off quietly to die off?

Everyone's entitled to their views, but I can't believe the number of people who can brush off a service so many rely on just because what people with less money than them may think and need doesn't matter.

As if it needed proving that money doesn't buy compassion.

(I promise to return to normal cheerful service in the morning. I've just had my fill of this kind of thing in the run up to the referendum :D )

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Posted 24 June 2016 - 02:03 AM

 Kanyemander West, on 23 June 2016 - 10:11 PM, said:

That squirrel gave 100% and yet is somehow the villain of the story. SMDH.

At 8:00 am today, I was brushing my teeth when that squirrel went by in the hallway - carrying a cookie.

After twenty minutes of chasing it around and trying to open the correct windows while poking at it with a vacuum cleaner extension thingy, I got it out a second floor window. This squirrel is definitely giving 100%.
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Posted 24 June 2016 - 02:32 AM

 amphibian, on 24 June 2016 - 02:03 AM, said:

 Kanyemander West, on 23 June 2016 - 10:11 PM, said:

That squirrel gave 100% and yet is somehow the villain of the story. SMDH.

At 8:00 am today, I was brushing my teeth when that squirrel went by in the hallway - carrying a cookie.

After twenty minutes of chasing it around and trying to open the correct windows while poking at it with a vacuum cleaner extension thingy, I got it out a second floor window. This squirrel is definitely giving 100%.


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Posted 24 June 2016 - 09:14 AM

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Posted 24 June 2016 - 09:21 AM

The author of If You Give A Mouse A Cookie did a reading/assembly at my school when I was in 3rd grade. That was like a kid's ultimate celebrity sighting.
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Posted 24 June 2016 - 07:48 PM

I hate my job
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Posted 25 June 2016 - 02:07 PM

 Raymond Luxury Yacht, on 24 June 2016 - 07:48 PM, said:

I hate my job

Same.
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Posted 25 June 2016 - 03:52 PM

 EmperorMagus, on 25 June 2016 - 02:07 PM, said:

 Raymond Luxury Yacht, on 24 June 2016 - 07:48 PM, said:

I hate my job

Same.

I'll third this notion.
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