[Solidsnape]

Recruitment agencies.
How these companies manage to sustain themselves with such a blatant disregard for anything or anyone not on their own pre-determined agenda, is astounding.
When you can't even be bothered to give a call back to a potential client (me) who is more than qualified for the advertised post or even, at the least, stay at work until the office officially closes so that you can be contacted, you must be sooooooo super important.

It must hurt being that good.

[amphibian]

Got tapped in the chest by a grifter looking to ask for a monetary favor at a transit stop.

I have calmed down in recent years, so said I didn't have any money other than the fare (true) and gave him a stare. He moved on, but came back a few minutes later looking me up as if I were a target his tall boy carrying, fat behind could easily take lunch money from - which.... no, would not happen.

Grrrrrrr.

[QuickTidal]

amphibian, on 03 June 2016 - 03:00 PM, said:

Got tapped in the chest by a grifter looking to ask for a monetary favor at a transit stop.

I have calmed down in recent years, so said I didn't have any money other than the fare (true) and gave him a stare. He moved on, but came back a few minutes later looking me up as if I were a target his tall boy carrying, fat behind could easily take lunch money from - which.... no, would not happen.

Grrrrrrr.

That really sucks Amph. I've experienced this myself a lot in my sity. The thing is, they WANT you to fight them. They WANT you to get into it with them. I made a promise to my wife that I won't get into it with people in public (she worries about my safety)...so I've stayed calm in these situations recently for the most part.

But quick example from a number of years ago. Stood with my then-girlfirend at a transit stop and a sketchpad came up looking for (and I kid you not 33 cents). We both said we didn't have any change. Sorry. He looked down at the ground...paused...and in that pause (which was very likely mere seconds) I KNEW that something in his brain flipped a switch and we were about to have a problem, so I stood up from the step I'd been sitting on to give him the "move on" idea. And then he stomped on my then-girlfriends be-sandled foot as hard as he could. Then he turned his head back up and glared directly at me. I started to cock back my fist to let this MFer have it...but then he screamed as loud as he could "Fight me! Fucking FIGHT ME!" to my face...which made me pause and my then-girlfriend stopped shouting obscenities at him long enough to tell me to go inside the shop we were next to and call the cops and don't bother hitting him. I have never wanted to hit a random on the street more than I did that day. But when he demanded I fight him I knew it's what he wanted and refused to give that to him.

So I can fully understand your rage here. But you did the right thing by just flatly telling him no and just staring him down. He probably wanted you to have a go at him...these kinds of assholes WANT a scene, and they sure as hell want you to hit them so they can press charges against you.

[Loki]

QuickTidal, on 03 June 2016 - 03:40 PM, said:

amphibian, on 03 June 2016 - 03:00 PM, said:

Got tapped in the chest by a grifter looking to ask for a monetary favor at a transit stop.

I have calmed down in recent years, so said I didn't have any money other than the fare (true) and gave him a stare. He moved on, but came back a few minutes later looking me up as if I were a target his tall boy carrying, fat behind could easily take lunch money from - which.... no, would not happen.

Grrrrrrr.

That really sucks Amph. I've experienced this myself a lot in my sity. The thing is, they WANT you to fight them. They WANT you to get into it with them. I made a promise to my wife that I won't get into it with people in public (she worries about my safety)...so I've stayed calm in these situations recently for the most part.

But quick example from a number of years ago. Stood with my then-girlfirend at a transit stop and a sketchpad came up looking for (and I kid you not 33 cents). We both said we didn't have any change. Sorry. He looked down at the ground...paused...and in that pause (which was very likely mere seconds) I KNEW that something in his brain flipped a switch and we were about to have a problem, so I stood up from the step I'd been sitting on to give him the "move on" idea. And then he stomped on my then-girlfriends be-sandled foot as hard as he could. Then he turned his head back up and glared directly at me. I started to cock back my fist to let this MFer have it...but then he screamed as loud as he could "Fight me! Fucking FIGHT ME!" to my face...which made me pause and my then-girlfriend stopped shouting obscenities at him long enough to tell me to go inside the shop we were next to and call the cops and don't bother hitting him. I have never wanted to hit a random on the street more than I did that day. But when he demanded I fight him I knew it's what he wanted and refused to give that to him.

So I can fully understand your rage here. But you did the right thing by just flatly telling him no and just staring him down. He probably wanted you to have a go at him...these kinds of assholes WANT a scene, and they sure as hell want you to hit them so they can press charges against you.

People actually think people still use archaic forms of currency like coins and notes? What medieval city do you live in?

[worry]

Ants invaded the kitchen and in the midst of clearing them out a canister of PVC pipe cement ruptured and gooed all over the floor. Now it looks like the purple people eater bled all over my kitchen. I can already tell it's gonna be an awesome summer.

[Puck]

Mother dearest is sick. It's been coming for quite a while as she's almost had a heart attack almost ten years ago and has been skirting the issue ever since. Now she's gone and overworked herself AGAIN (I'd love to feel for her, but THAT particular issue could also have been seen coming a mile away and could've been averted if she'd thought a second about whom she'd had agreed to sell her tailoring atelier to AND actually read her freaking mail). So, instead of going to the hospital or at the very least calling it a day and staying at home for a couple of days, she's raising hell and trying to keep the atelier open despite barely being able to get out of bed, completely ignoring how much worse she's making the situation by making someone - namely her ex-husband - just sit there and tell people their stuff isn't ready instead of just putting up a sign along the lines of 'Sorry, we're closed for a few days due to illness or whatever'. She really ought to know better from experience that people are much more like to understand the latter.

Now, this is bad enough, but manageable. What REALLY is getting to me is her 'If I drop dead tomorrow, you'll know why'-rhetoric, mostly because my brain does a non-stop overlay over the situation of what happened ten years ago, which was 16-year-old me coming to visit her in intensive care and literally the first freaking words of hers being 'See where you've brought me', AFTER years of listening to this same stuff while growing up. She'd dialed that back for the last couple of years, somewhat - thinking about it I am very much aware of how she takes it back out and nurses it every time she's not happy about something - and these days, the 'you'-part is missing in all those pronouncements, but my brain just plain doesn't care.

On one hand, I am annoyed at myself that I don't care more (or try to do more for her - but she's made me stand in for her at her workplace since I was 16 or something so often, my go-to response it flat-out 'No' no matter what now and seriously, it only flies with her because I can't skip work - skipping school was okay), but on the other hand, if put to the test our relationship is maybe 30% care and 70% pure animal fear of what she's going to proclaim I am at fault for next. I'd love to be more supportive, but my energy is mostly going into keeping my own shit together even without these past couple of days. It's a lovely situation, really, like trying to hang yourself but the cord keeps talking back and saying how useless you are at even that.

I wouldn't have thought I'd ever say that, but I wish it was Monday and I was at work just so I could pretend all of this doesn't exist for a little bit. I am not even so much sad or conplaining or despairing, as I am fuming about how the same shit keeps repeating itself. Telling her to do something selsible for once is like talking to a wall, or worse, a wall that talks back with accusations.

Like, I know she's trying and I know she's really, really not feeling well (and I feel like she's kinda gotten better at keeping her spur-of-the-moment accusations to herself). It's just that what's happened before has completely erased my ability to care, except for feeling fear about what's gonna happen next. It's like I'm not actually seeing what is happening right NOW, but what's happened all those times before that.

Bottom line, I am kind of annoyed at ,yself for being unable to keep the now and the past apart.

\rant

This post has been edited by Puck: 04 June 2016 - 10:12 PM

[Slow Ben]

Food poisoning.

Spent all night sitting on the toilet with my face in the sink.

And I was alone with my girls and the 8 month old didn't want to sleep.

Rough night.

[Macros]

Your sink is close enough to the toilet for this or are you freakishly tall?

[King Lear]

why are expats so terribad

This post has been edited by King Lear: 07 June 2016 - 08:19 AM

[Tsundoku]

People formerly named Patrick?

Dunno.

[Macros]

Holy fuck, pandemonium at work. Biggest pumping processing facility in the north and the whole place is fucked. 900 litres a second of waste water (all the good stuff) is pumping and spilling and exploding all over the place, and we've got to get it working again. They're going to try redirect the flow around the network, that'll buy us about an hour to get 3 hours work done to get this place fixed.
Great craic.

[Mentalist]

Running late. And it's only marginally my fault-for assuming last night that a pile of white dress shirts I washed 2 weekends ago and left by the ironing board would still be there, rather than vanishing into the ether.

I love my family tenderly, but if there was on thing I'd change is to have them realize that every item in the house has its logical assigned place and it should be kept in the near vicinity of said place at all times when not in use.

[Solidsnape]

Macros, on 07 June 2016 - 11:50 AM, said:

Holy fuck, pandemonium at work. Biggest pumping processing facility in the north and the whole place is fucked. 900 litres a second of waste water (all the good stuff) is pumping and spilling and exploding all over the place, and we've got to get it working again. They're going to try redirect the flow around the network, that'll buy us about an hour to get 3 hours work done to get this place fixed.
Great craic.

Sounds like a shit day.

[Arthur Dayne]

Macros, on 07 June 2016 - 11:50 AM, said:

Holy fuck, pandemonium at work. Biggest pumping processing facility in the north and the whole place is fucked. 900 litres a second of waste water (all the good stuff) is pumping and spilling and exploding all over the place, and we've got to get it working again. They're going to try redirect the flow around the network, that'll buy us about an hour to get 3 hours work done to get this place fixed.
Great craic.

This borderline belongs in the poop thread.

*edit* Also... "HOLY SHIT!"

This post has been edited by Arthur Dayne: 07 June 2016 - 05:10 PM

[Nicodimas]

Anndd the AC is out...it's like a right of passage you go through every other summer.

100 at night and hot as balls waiting for the AC guy to arrive to fix.. Bring on the bad news looks like a rough one.

[Tiste Simeon]

Macros, on 07 June 2016 - 11:50 AM, said:

Holy fuck, pandemonium at work. Biggest pumping processing facility in the north and the whole place is fucked. 900 litres a second of waste water (all the good stuff) is pumping and spilling and exploding all over the place, and we've got to get it working again. They're going to try redirect the flow around the network, that'll buy us about an hour to get 3 hours work done to get this place fixed.
Great craic.

I thought the biggest pumping facility in the North??

[QuickTidal]

Ugh, my one sister-in-law (wife's brother's wife) can be such a cantankerous JERK. Because she and her husband essentially put their careers first and had kids anyways...both kids ended up with behavioral problems as a result of the lack of time spent with either parent for their first couple of years (coupled with moving multiple times across the country). They aren't awful or anything, but they can be really bad (much worse than any other kids I've seen and interacted with in my family or amongst my friends)...and so my sister-in-law basically has this attitude like "Just WAIT till YOU have kids! This will be your life! And you'll be annoyed with life too."...and of course now that we ARE having a kid this rhetoric from her has ramped up and she finds a way to fit it into every single interaction we have with her. It irritates my wife (all the time) but I've always been able to keep it at arms length before this...now it's getting to me. I'm sitting here like "We get it, you had kids, and you find them to be an interminable chore...that does NOT mean that our relationship with our kid will necessarily be that strained...nor do I feel like I'm going to look at having had children as some kind of horrible burden."

Like I don't get it. I get that being a parent is tough, and that your time to yourself is minimal...but this was a choice we made, and I mean to see it through and be the best dad that I can possibly be. I don't want to ever have her attitude about it. And she brought it completely on herself (again because they put their careers first) but now complains all the time. I also sit here thinking she WANTS us to be miserable so that she has company?

[Abyss]

Coonass, on 08 June 2016 - 05:10 AM, said:

Grrrr a huge spider was staring me down in my den so I showed that bitch who the boss was. Turns out she was carrying hundreds of babies on her ass that scattered all over my carpet. Not cool man.

Nuke it from orbit.

[Abyss]

QuickTidal, on 08 June 2016 - 12:55 PM, said:

Ugh, my one sister-in-law (wife's brother's wife) can be such a cantankerous JERK. ..... I also sit here thinking she WANTS us to be miserable so that she has company?

Yes, because otherwise she did something wrong, which is obviously unthinkable.

Ignore her. Stick to a periodic polite 'we`ll see how it goes`, and don't be drawn in by the inevitable `oh just you wait and see how right I am` response.

[QuickTidal]

Abyss, on 08 June 2016 - 02:36 PM, said:

QuickTidal, on 08 June 2016 - 12:55 PM, said:

Ugh, my one sister-in-law (wife's brother's wife) can be such a cantankerous JERK. ..... I also sit here thinking she WANTS us to be miserable so that she has company?

Yes, because otherwise she did something wrong, which is obviously unthinkable.

Ignore her. Stick to a periodic polite 'we`ll see how it goes`, and don't be drawn in by the inevitable `oh just you wait and see how right I am` response.

Yeah, that's generally what I'm doing. But man, she knows how to push my buttons.