[QuickTidal]

Andorion, on 24 July 2015 - 03:53 AM, said:

So my girlfriends superbusyness has escalated to another level. Since she is juggling an academic degree anda full time job this is entirely understandable. But the end result is we are barely scraping up 15 minutes a day to talk . And I have noticed over the last day or three that she is talking in a rather flat voice and keeping things really short. Now I hope this is because of exhaustion and fatigue and it will blow over. What I am afraid of is that I have messed up in someway and she is mad at me for some reason and I haven't spotted it yet.

Feeling nervous.

I would expect this is just to do with her busyness and exhaustion. Whatever you do, don't mention it, or pressure for more time...you don't want to add to her stress level. Just roll with it, do your thing, and it should pass.

[Illuyankas]

Give her a back massage.

[Andorion]

QuickTidal, on 24 July 2015 - 01:03 PM, said:

Andorion, on 24 July 2015 - 03:53 AM, said:

So my girlfriends superbusyness has escalated to another level. Since she is juggling an academic degree anda full time job this is entirely understandable. But the end result is we are barely scraping up 15 minutes a day to talk . And I have noticed over the last day or three that she is talking in a rather flat voice and keeping things really short. Now I hope this is because of exhaustion and fatigue and it will blow over. What I am afraid of is that I have messed up in someway and she is mad at me for some reason and I haven't spotted it yet.

Feeling nervous.

I would expect this is just to do with her busyness and exhaustion. Whatever you do, don't mention it, or pressure for more time...you don't want to add to her stress level. Just roll with it, do your thing, and it should pass.

Yeah I am just trying to be supportive with the occasional Whatsapp. I just hope this blows over soon.

[Andorion]

Illuyankas, on 24 July 2015 - 02:04 PM, said:

Give her a back massage.

I wish I could get her alone long enough for that. I haven't even talked for more than 20 minutes in the last week

[HoosierDaddy]

Stop fucking shooting people in theaters you dumb fucks. Just stop shooting people all-fucking-together.

[amphibian]

Andorion, on 24 July 2015 - 02:10 PM, said:

Illuyankas, on 24 July 2015 - 02:04 PM, said:

Give her a back massage.

I wish I could get her alone long enough for that. I haven't even talked for more than 20 minutes in the last week

This sounds very familiar to me. I was in a 4 year long distance relationship, which ended (rightly so, we weren't the right fit for each other in terms of marriage).

You may need to make her feel special again. Sometimes, in all the hustle and bustle, we can kind of forget the spark that our significant others give us and when talking to the person becomes a matter of rote, very time-crunched, it's hard to resurrect the spark yourself. Sometimes the flatness comes from feeling like the other person is a responsibility to be handled, rather than the person that offers fun, escape, solace, contentment.

A meaningful romantic gesture will likely allow you to see if the flatness is workload-related or if it is a sign of not wanting to do this relationship thing anymore. It does not have to be big, but it has to really mean something to her and be done not just to get laid or on the first day you show up.

Or you can ask her if a hotdog is a sandwich and enjoy the next 10 minutes of conversation.

[Andorion]

amphibian, on 24 July 2015 - 04:27 PM, said:

Andorion, on 24 July 2015 - 02:10 PM, said:

Illuyankas, on 24 July 2015 - 02:04 PM, said:

Give her a back massage.

I wish I could get her alone long enough for that. I haven't even talked for more than 20 minutes in the last week

This sounds very familiar to me. I was in a 4 year long distance relationship, which ended (rightly so, we weren't the right fit for each other in terms of marriage).

You may need to make her feel special again. Sometimes, in all the hustle and bustle, we can kind of forget the spark that our significant others give us and when talking to the person becomes a matter of rote, very time-crunched, it's hard to resurrect the spark yourself. Sometimes the flatness comes from feeling like the other person is a responsibility to be handled, rather than the person that offers fun, escape, solace, contentment.

A meaningful romantic gesture will likely allow you to see if the flatness is workload-related or if it is a sign of not wanting to do this relationship thing anymore. It does not have to be big, but it has to really mean something to her and be done not just to get laid or on the first day you show up.

Or you can ask her if a hotdog is a sandwich and enjoy the next 10 minutes of conversation.

Working on that romantic thingy right now....

Thanx for making me laugh...I never did think about hot dogs that way, but now that you mention it.....

[amphibian]

The real kickers are whether you consider samosa sandwiches, or if cereal is soup.

[Illuyankas]

Hot dogs are elongated burgers, samosas are tiny presents with edible wrapping, and cereal is a casserole.

[worry]

What they're all dancing around, Andorion, is the issue of cyber-quickies.

[Illuyankas]

Internet cutouts when I'm playing GW2 with Malazans again for the first time in ages >:C

[Andorion]

amphibian, on 24 July 2015 - 05:56 PM, said:

The real kickers are whether you consider samosa sandwiches, or if cereal is soup.

Illuyankas, on 24 July 2015 - 06:45 PM, said:

Hot dogs are elongated burgers, samosas are tiny presents with edible wrapping, and cereal is a casserole.

worry, on 24 July 2015 - 08:28 PM, said:

What they're all dancing around, Andorion, is the issue of cyber-quickies.

Lets just say the situation improved vastly last night

[Illuyankas]

Illuyankas, on 25 July 2015 - 01:36 AM, said:

Internet cutouts when I'm playing GW2 with Malazans again for the first time in ages >:C

Sadly I couldn't get back in time before Centz had to go, but here's our norn mesmers being fat together



(mine is Fat Darth Maul on the right)

(no that's actually the character's name)

(seriously)

[worry]

Briar King, on 25 July 2015 - 01:27 AM, said:

HoosierDaddy, on 24 July 2015 - 02:59 PM, said:

Stop fucking shooting people in theaters you dumb fucks. Just stop shooting people all-fucking-together.

No shit. That city is just 1 hr east of mine. Freaks me out.

Specifically this:
http://wehuntedthema...-find-a-motive/

But yeah, also, this:
http://www.washingto...in-2015-so-far/

[Maark Abbott]

People in general. Standing on top of someone top the point that they feel you might be trying to give them a prostate examination is a bad idea, especially if they have nowhere to go and are a misanthropic asshole.

[Nicodimas]

Photoradar blows monkey dick.

Got Served <thanks roomie for accepting>

I never got the so called 'ticket' 3 months ago..and If it had been just like 120 days..I would have been clear.

I can do driving school...so that's cool, but have to appear so that's a waste of a day of my life.

fyi 52 in a 40 after a friday work shift. Lame.

Speeding tickets blow.

[QuickTidal]

Ack.

That story of that woman in China who was riding the escalator with her kid, had the top panel collapse and threw her kid to safety before being killed in the gears. Horrible!

[Andorion]

Briar King, on 28 July 2015 - 01:37 AM, said:

3 days in a row up on our roof blowing off leaves and trimming over hanging limbs in 99F with heat index of 107 or so. August is going to be an even bigger beast.

Huh...diametrically opposite experience for me. I was up on the terrace in the absolute pouring deluge poking leaves out of drains so that the ankle deep water drains out and the roof stops leaking.

[Maark Abbott]

Recent local news stories causing me to wonder many things. Gorefest will have heard of this, no doubt.

So, on Sunday night a 7 year old kid went missing near where I live (Locke Park is maybe five minutes' walk away). There was a massive news push to find him yesterday, however at 08:30 yesterday a body was found in a construction site about 3/4 of the way between Locke Park and where he lived. It's almost certainly the kid.

Now, a few questions spring to mind. Locke Park is 2 miles from where this lad lived. Why was a 7 year old out alone (with their friends, but still, no responsible adult from what has been reported)? It seems hugely irresponsible for them to have not kept tabs on the lad. And the body was found in a construction site; if a national newspaper is to be believed (probably not as it's notoriously unreliable), they were aware that this kid often went to the construction site to play when it was empty.

I feel horrible for what's happened but it all seems like it could have been avoided. :/

[Solidsnape]

Maark, on 28 July 2015 - 06:37 AM, said:

Recent local news stories causing me to wonder many things. Gorefest will have heard of this, no doubt.

So, on Sunday night a 7 year old kid went missing near where I live (Locke Park is maybe five minutes' walk away). There was a massive news push to find him yesterday, however at 08:30 yesterday a body was found in a construction site about 3/4 of the way between Locke Park and where he lived. It's almost certainly the kid.

Now, a few questions spring to mind. Locke Park is 2 miles from where this lad lived. Why was a 7 year old out alone (with their friends, but still, no responsible adult from what has been reported)? It seems hugely irresponsible for them to have not kept tabs on the lad. And the body was found in a construction site; if a national newspaper is to be believed (probably not as it's notoriously unreliable), they were aware that this kid often went to the construction site to play when it was empty.

I feel horrible for what's happened but it all seems like it could have been avoided. :/

I know there's a massive difference between 6 and 7, but my oldest is 6 and there's no way I can see me letting him play 2 miles away by himself in a years time.

This story made me lurch inside when I read it yesterday.. Sooooo sad.
Can't help feeling it could have been prevented though....