[Tiste Simeon]

I'm now regretting the aforementioned staying up too late & reading TVTropes thing...

[Abyss]

QuickTidal, on 28 February 2014 - 08:00 PM, said:

Aw man, Aaron Allston died.

Massive heart failure today at a convention in Missouri.


That sucks. He wrote some solid books in his day.

Briar King, on 28 February 2014 - 09:30 PM, said:

Fuck... I knew he had some health issues back during LOTF series. That sucks.

Damn. I always held out hope he would revisit his DOC SIDHE series.

[Grimjust Bearegular]

Mrs Savagely Wishy Washy, on 08 February 2014 - 01:27 PM, said:

Grimjust Bearegular, on 30 January 2014 - 09:39 AM, said:

I only work part-time but I don't feel like I have time for anything any more. Haven't written, drawn or visited this forum in AGES!



Also, gaining weight.


Also also, found a lump in my lady hump a while back. Doctor says not to worry, but I'm worrying.

... know the feeling...have you had ultrasound or so to check? I have apparently fibrous tissue which always feels like lumps. My GP recommended to take starflower oil, or evening primrose oil. He said that it helps some women, but not others. In my case it works and I would recommend you to give it a try. You can buy capsules in health shops, like this: http://www.hollandan...ail.asp?pid=249 .... and naturally I wish you that everything is fine with your lovelies!

Going in for ultrasound/x-ray on the 19th, really worried about the big C. My dad and uncle died of it (well not lady hump C) a couple of years back, so not feeling too optimistic I'll check those oils out, though, thanks!


Also, went to a baby shower yesterday. Not a big fan of babies, especially not a whole shower of them, but it was kinda nice...Except I can't stand one of the girls who was there. I really hate her stupid, skinny, prude smug-face and I want to break her stick body in half sometimes. It looks like she only eats spinach leaves and sunflower seeds, but the worst part is that she's so goddamn boring. She has no personality whatsoever. She's my polar opposite. But the worst WORST part is that Mr Awesome used to date her...and it makes me irrationally angry.

Of course it didn't help that out of the six girls who were there, he'd slept with four of them(including the one we were having the baby shower for!). Which also makes me uncomfortable and irrationally angry, although it happened before we got together. So tired of this shit, really. Is it just me being weird and I just need to let it go, or what? HELP! Any views on this? Could really need it.


Also also, trying to spread the gospel of Erikson on Imgur, but the people there are all fucktards and assholes.

This post has been edited by Grimjust Bearegular: 06 March 2014 - 11:36 AM

[Morgoth]

Just found out that the minor back injury I got at the gym has developed into a small prolapse in my lower back. Not earth shattering news, It's more or less what I had figured already, but it's depressing news all the same.

This post has been edited by Morgoth: 06 March 2014 - 12:21 PM

[Macros]

@Grimbear

everyone has a past, unfortunately for you mr Awesomes is thrown in your face sometimes, however you can be smug and self satisfied with the fact that he isn't with any of those girls, he's with you, which suggests he sees more in you than he ever did in them.

besides that all I got is ' bitches be crazy dawg!'. But if my girlfriend got bent out of shape everytime she saw A girl I had kissed, dated or slept with at an event she would be a terminally unhappy girl, we come from a small town where everyone goes to the same bars every weekend.

[Grimjust Bearegular]

Macros, on 06 March 2014 - 12:45 PM, said:

@Grimbear

everyone has a past, unfortunately for you mr Awesomes is thrown in your face sometimes, however you can be smug and self satisfied with the fact that he isn't with any of those girls, he's with you, which suggests he sees more in you than he ever did in them.

besides that all I got is ' bitches be crazy dawg!'. But if my girlfriend got bent out of shape everytime she saw A girl I had kissed, dated or slept with at an event she would be a terminally unhappy girl, we come from a small town where everyone goes to the same bars every weekend.

Yeah, I know. Sometimes I just wish we had an equal amount of past so that his wouldn't seem so HUGE. And they're the ones being smug and selfsatisfied for some reason, like they know something I don't, but unfortunately I know EVERYTHING...ugh.
It's just weird, and quite a transition, my ex hadn't had anyone before me so I've never had to deal with this situation before.


And yes, bitches do be crazy...all them hormones and shit:P

At least it's getting better...I'm not constantly drama queening out at parties and such. That's something.

[worry]

Have you tried slaying them outright?

[HiddenOne]

Worry is right. You must defeat the mightiest of them in single combat, then consummate your love in a pool of fresh blood while the others look on in envy and horror

Then make a painting, should be in the right mood for art after that wholesome time

[Tiste Simeon]

HiddenOne, on 06 March 2014 - 11:19 PM, said:

Worry is right. You must defeat the mightiest of them in single combat, then consummate your love in a pool of fresh blood while the others look on in envy and horror

Then make a painting, should be in the right mood for art after that wholesome time

So... standard weekend then?

[Mezla PigDog]

Grim - Mac's grown up and sensible answer aside (and it sounds like they're all inbred where he comes from) I'm going to give the crazy bitch answer. No lady I know hangs out with 4 girls that their boyfriend/husband has humped!!!! WTF?! The skinny boring one in particular must be destroyed. There is no satisfaction to be gained from a "he's with me now" line of thinking only paranoia and jealousy. My advice - rise above it and act like you don't give a shit when you have to be around them, chill out about it in front of him but in a rational moment get him to acknowledge that if the tables were turned then it would feel pretty weird and most importantly get busy making new friends that don't have carnal knowledge of your significant other.

[Grimjust Bearegular]

Mezla PigDog, on 07 March 2014 - 07:30 AM, said:

Grim - Mac's grown up and sensible answer aside (and it sounds like they're all inbred where he comes from) I'm going to give the crazy bitch answer. No lady I know hangs out with 4 girls that their boyfriend/husband has humped!!!! WTF?! The skinny boring one in particular must be destroyed. There is no satisfaction to be gained from a "he's with me now" line of thinking only paranoia and jealousy. My advice - rise above it and act like you don't give a shit when you have to be around them, chill out about it in front of him but in a rational moment get him to acknowledge that if the tables were turned then it would feel pretty weird and most importantly get busy making new friends that don't have carnal knowledge of your significant other.

It would have been easier to avoid them all (there are more) if they weren't the wives and girlfriends of his best friends...lets just say they are an intimate group of "friends" who have thoroughly enjoyed each others company and what the hell have I gotten myself into like seriously what the actual fuck

which is what they've all been doing apparently


I think total annihilation is the best option, Kill it with fire!

[Macros]

A hearty fuck you to you too Mezla


I don't know what size of an area you live in, or what your social situation is, but in a group of friends that have been together for a long time and have shared many acquaintences over the years this situation is not uncommon. Hear me out Mez before you go BBC on my ass. One of my best friends sort of dated my girlfriend a few years ago, what does this mean? Well to me it means I'm not the only one that fancies her so my eyesight is still acceptable. In fact I'm relatively sure I had a drunken snog with one of my best friends wives several years before he had even met her. C'est la vie, again, you can't hold peoples past against them (barring an axe murderer or a rapist etc) and in even considering what did or may have did with these girls simply gives them power over you. Ignore them and be happy with me A, that more than anything will piss them off if they actually have any feelings at all on the matter, chances are they think about it a lot less than you do. Point and case for me, I have two sisters that I am constantly informed are quite attractive, working on a building site with a lot of guys from home they used to try and get a rise out of me by it, hell several of the lads have at least snogged one, or both, of my sisters, doesn't bother me. For two reasons, being lads and trying to get a wind up going, me reacting would be like win ing the lottery for them, but mainly, clearly they weren't up to much as both my sisters are in happy relationships with other people, shit happens when you're out drinking, standards are lowered, perceptions change. You wake up the odd time and face palm 'ah shit I shouldn't have tackled THAT person'.

~shrug~

maybe its just me, I've had the sisters arguement before with some of the boys, 'oh if one of the boys tackled my sister Id knock them out' to which I respond 'you're a fucking idiot, your sister can do what, or indeed who, ever the fuck she likes'. Some people don't get the fact that other people are free to do what they want and will undoubtedly have made (in your opinion) some horrible errors in judgement in their life, build a bridge and get over it because the milk can't go back in jar, let the cat have its day.

[Grimjust Bearegular]

Macros, on 07 March 2014 - 11:41 AM, said:

A hearty fuck you to you too Mezla


I don't know what size of an area you live in, or what your social situation is, but in a group of friends that have been together for a long time and have shared many acquaintences over the years this situation is not uncommon. Hear me out Mez before you go BBC on my ass. One of my best friends sort of dated my girlfriend a few years ago, what does this mean? Well to me it means I'm not the only one that fancies her so my eyesight is still acceptable. In fact I'm relatively sure I had a drunken snog with one of my best friends wives several years before he had even met her. C'est la vie, again, you can't hold peoples past against them (barring an axe murderer or a rapist etc) and in even considering what did or may have did with these girls simply gives them power over you. Ignore them and be happy with me A, that more than anything will piss them off if they actually have any feelings at all on the matter, chances are they think about it a lot less than you do. Point and case for me, I have two sisters that I am constantly informed are quite attractive, working on a building site with a lot of guys from home they used to try and get a rise out of me by it, hell several of the lads have at least snogged one, or both, of my sisters, doesn't bother me. For two reasons, being lads and trying to get a wind up going, me reacting would be like win ing the lottery for them, but mainly, clearly they weren't up to much as both my sisters are in happy relationships with other people, shit happens when you're out drinking, standards are lowered, perceptions change. You wake up the odd time and face palm 'ah shit I shouldn't have tackled THAT person'.

~shrug~

maybe its just me, I've had the sisters arguement before with some of the boys, 'oh if one of the boys tackled my sister Id knock them out' to which I respond 'you're a fucking idiot, your sister can do what, or indeed who, ever the fuck she likes'. Some people don't get the fact that other people are free to do what they want and will undoubtedly have made (in your opinion) some horrible errors in judgement in their life, build a bridge and get over it because the milk can't go back in jar, let the cat have its day.

I live in the biggest city in Norway, so we're not in a inbred little hick town, unfortunately

And what you're saying is all well and fine. I get it. But this is not "sort of dating", this is more like "I just met you, and this is crazy, but we're friends now, so fuck my wife maybe?" and of course "how bout you and I fuck my wife together". They are a group of friends who like to share, so to speak. All open relationships and what not. And it is so far from what I am accustomed to, or even want to be accustomed to, and sometimes I freak out a little, and get uncomfortable and creeped out...and I'm just having a hard time dealing with it, even though I know it technically has nothing to do with me....which makes it even more frustrating!


So, I vent on ze internet, because I can't have the same fucking discussion with Mr A over and over again. I'm tired of it, and really fucking tired of myself and the whole situation really. Why can't I just deal, like a normal person?

Fuuuuuuuuu!

[Abyss]

Macros, on 07 March 2014 - 11:41 AM, said:

... I've had the sisters arguement before with some of the boys,...

RULE number seven: Once you have known a guy longer than 12 hours, had a beer with him and shared any form of communication related to the appreciation of the opposite sex, his sister is off limits.
The Rules exist for a reason. Respect the Rules. Failure to respect the Rules will cause fighting, riots, and/or the downfall of civilization as we know and love it.

I'm told there's a female version of this rule related to brothers but it has never been explained to me.

I don't know where the LGBTG crowd stands on this one.

[HiddenOne]

Grimmy, perhaps as a conservative American I don't appreciate the modern & European mores involved here, and with no wish to offend, it sounds to me like you ARE the normal one here. Your man sounds either like he is either pretty insensitive, totally clueless, or trying to work you into the writhing mass of sweaty flesh that is his social circle.

[Macros]

Abyss, on 07 March 2014 - 03:13 PM, said:

Macros, on 07 March 2014 - 11:41 AM, said:

... I've had the sisters arguement before with some of the boys,...

RULE number seven: Once you have known a guy longer than 12 hours, had a beer with him and shared any form of communication related to the appreciation of the opposite sex, his sister is off limits.
The Rules exist for a reason. Respect the Rules. Failure to respect the Rules will cause fighting, riots, and/or the downfall of civilization as we know and love it.

I'm told there's a female version of this rule related to brothers but it has never been explained to me.

I don't know where the LGBTG crowd stands on this one.

this is such utter bullshit and you know it abyss, it stems from the same patriarchal shite of yore when girls were married off for the betterment of the family and led to the demonization of sex for women. Who am I to say who ny sister can and can not see? All if a sudden because I've shared a few beers with a Guy my sister can't date him? If I told my sisters that my friends were off limits they'd tell me to go fuck myself, I'd say the same to then if they said I couldn't date their friends.



@Grimbear, wow, I didn't realise it was a car keys in the bowl situation, I thought it was people who knew each other who had hooked up at various times in the past not sweaty writhing piles of peoples. But still, what other people do, is it really your business if you and Mr A aren't involved, your options are quite limited. If they're his best friends are you going to force him to cut ties with them? If he is pressuring you to join in with something like that when its clearly not your bag then he's mr not-so-awesome. If its not something he's expecting of you and its something just his friends are doing, but it makes you uncomfortable you have to ask yourself do you want to continue feeling uncomfortable or do you want to demand he changes his friends, and thus himself?

Also, to both grim and mez, inbred hicktown, the two of you politely go fuck yourself there has been (as far as I know) no incest amongst any of my friends or acquaintences, its just a very limited bar scene, even in Belfast its the same heads out most nights, eskimo family is to be expected.


edited for clarification in midsection.
also fuck the bullshit sister rule, if you are friends with somebody, they clearly think you are on some level a respectable human being, thus they can have no arguments with their sisters choosing, Id rather my sister with one of my friends than a drug dealer for example

This post has been edited by Macros: 07 March 2014 - 04:42 PM

[QuickTidal]

Grimjust Bearegular, on 07 March 2014 - 02:54 PM, said:

Why can't I just deal, like a normal person?

You ARE a normal person. Everything you are feeling is perfectly human.

Weathering such a storm will be tough, but IF you can manage to do it without rocking your own relationship boat too much in the process, you shall be stronger at the other end.

I say this as someone who is now 6 years into a relationship (whom I'm marrying in two months) with someone who has a few exes she's still friends with, at least one of which made me jealous. That said, the touchstone of "they are with me" sounds trite as something to repeat to yourself but it really is true in the long run. If your relationship with Mr A is going to endure, then these will simply be part of his past, and the further you and he get from those "events" (timewise) the less important they will seem to both of you. One of the guys I was most concerned about her being friends with when we were first dating (who I fin to be an unrepentant, asshole player), is now someone I look back on with aloofness.

Each instance will require energy to "deal" with on a quiet level...remembering that to him it's not the big deal it is to you (probably). To him it's in his past and he isn't giving it the brain time you are. So in that case it's going to be tough to have conversations with him about it since he's not going to see it how you do. HOWEVER, you are well within your rights to say "This is how I FEEL about these girls, and this past. I'm uncomfortable about it. I just wish you to know that." You can't ask him to change that, but if you let him know those feelings, then at the very least he SHOULD (if he's awesome) tailor his behavior when you are out with him and them in a respectful way.

I'll give you an example. An old girlfriend of mine was super flirty with guys at her work when she was single, and would tone that down anytime she got involved with someone in a relationship. After we started dating we went to a work party for her office at a pub, and one of her co-workers (right in front of me) grabbed her and pulled her onto his lap. She gently pushed off him and came over to sit by me without saying anything. The message was clear though "That is not okay, and it's certainly not okay in front of my current dude"....she even went over to him later and quietly and verbally let him know that it was not cool and he wasn't to do that again.

You can't change how others will act to him, and you can't change your feelings about the matter. But you can let him know your feelings, and hope that he is able to curb any of the stuff that will overtly offend you around them.

Just my two cents.

EDIT: I have, it should be noted, dated sisters of three good friends over the years since my teens. In most cases there was one uncomfortable conversation with said friend...and then everything was fine.

This post has been edited by QuickTidal: 07 March 2014 - 04:53 PM

[Abyss]

Macros, on 07 March 2014 - 04:37 PM, said:

Abyss, on 07 March 2014 - 03:13 PM, said:

Macros, on 07 March 2014 - 11:41 AM, said:

... I've had the sisters arguement before with some of the boys,...

RULE number seven: Once you have known a guy longer than 12 hours, had a beer with him and shared any form of communication related to the appreciation of the opposite sex, his sister is off limits.
The Rules exist for a reason. Respect the Rules. Failure to respect the Rules will cause fighting, riots, and/or the downfall of civilization as we know and love it.

I'm told there's a female version of this rule related to brothers but it has never been explained to me.

I don't know where the LGBTG crowd stands on this one.

this is such utter bullshit and you know it abyss, it stems from the same patriarchal shite of yore when girls were married off for the betterment of the family and led to the demonization of sex for women. Who am I to say who ny sister can and can not see? All if a sudden because I've shared a few beers with a Guy my sister can't date him? If I told my sisters that my friends were off limits they'd tell me to go fuck myself, I'd say the same to then if they said I couldn't date their friends.
...
also fuck the bullshit sister rule, if you are friends with somebody, they clearly think you are on some level a respectable human being, thus they can have no arguments with their sisters choosing, Id rather my sister with one of my friends than a drug dealer for example

It is neither patriarchal nor demonic. It's merely less nauseating.

[Macros]

Its horseshit and you know it, now stop trolling

[Abyss]

Macros, on 07 March 2014 - 05:25 PM, said:

Its horseshit and you know it, now stop trolling

hardly trolling esp in this thread, but if you're offended i do apologize.