Posted 30 December 2025 - 01:35 PM
I've moved in with my partner of a year and a half. The entire relationship has been a legit dream come true in terms of mutual admiration/enjoyment/support, stability, intensity developing smoothly, and excellent problem solving that's navigated family and friends combining, health issues that popped up, and ensuring we're on the same page.
I am thrilled this is happening with my specific partner because she's amazing. There is also an element that's important in that we have both left crappy marriages in which we thought we were strong enough to carry the burden of 1.5 or even 1.8 lives, do almost all the housework, and fix the other person's issues while having a full time job - well, it was misery and didn't work out for either of us. After those marriages crumbled years ago, neither of us got bitter, we made sure that we were dating healthily, checked to see if there was a facade in any place, broke up with people when it was time, kept going, found each other, and got to do well placed conversations about values, goals, and commitment at the right stages.
I am very lucky and I've had such fun creating great times with her. She's feeling the same. The ease with which this is all happening is so wonderful that I'm finding myself protecting it intelligently and nicely.
I survived the Permian and all I got was this t-shirt.