Shiara, on 19 September 2012 - 04:38 AM, said:
I guess I'm again in the 1% in your broad generalisations, as I can’t say I’ve ever “fantasised” about a musician or actor (with the notable exception of imagining meeting Orlando Bloom on a plane – just conversation, mind you, none of that mile-high club stuff). Almost any actor I've admired in a more-than-professional sense has been primarily for things like their eyes and smile. Granted, they've generally been otherwise physically attractive, but it's the eyes and smile that get me. I don't see how either of those features translate directly to sex. Mostly I bring this up as an example to say that EVERY WOMAN IS DIFFERENT. They don't all go gaga about arms or abs - I have a friend who always checks out a guy's hands and teeth first, of all things.
Shiara, all those things you mention are physical traits. They are therefore linked to the sexual by virtue of simply being PHYSICAL traits and not mental ones (sense of humour). Whether or not you wish to admit that your "looking at the eyes and smile first" is an attraction feature and therefore inherently sexual in base nature is totally up to you.
And yeah, every woman IS different, but you just described yourself and a friend both being attracted to physical traits of men. That's a pheromone level response. You look at their body and find things you are attracted to...that is a sexual reaction...just not one you wish to qualify as one because it doesn't concern the genitals....meanwhile you are trying to differentiate yourself from someone who finds "arms" attractive by saying "eyes and smile" get you...I'm sorry...how are arms more or less a sexual attraction than eyes or smile? None of them are genitalia.