[Cyphon]

So sorry to hear QT, but glad that your mum was able to do it on her terms and you could be there for her in the end.

[worry]

Slow Ben, on 20 November 2022 - 03:42 PM, said:

You're a good kid QT. You're mom was lucky to have you there with her.

^^^^^

[Tiste Simeon]

Dang QT I don't have words but so much love for you. I'm here for you if you need.

[Mezla PigDog]

Sorry to hear about your loss, QT. I'll bet if you gave most people the option of going on their own terms and knowing everything important has been said with their favourite people around them, they would take it. Well done your family and your mum x

[Whisperzzzzzzz]

QuickTidal, on 20 November 2022 - 01:11 PM, said:

Last Wednesday my mom decided that she wanted to choose medically assisted dying. My sister and I went to be with her at the hospital for the last time. My uncle, and my stepdad were there.

On Wednesday night I checked with her to confirm this was indeed what she wanted. She said yes. She wanted control over when it happens VS facing a heart attack, or stroke, or pneumonia that was caused by her weakened immune system. She could no longer her move her legs, and she had multiple blood clots in her legs and lungs.

We sat with her that night till she said she wanted to rest. We stayed nearby in a hotel to be there in the morning when it was scheduled to take place.

I spent an hour with her Thursday morning, played her music she liked, told her all the things I wanted to tell her and to thank for everything she’d done for me. I cried a lot a she told me not to cry. She told my sister and I how proud she was of us.

I showed her video of my kids telling her how much they loved her and she would be their Christmas angel now (she loved Christmas), and she loudly told my phone how much she loved them back.

The doctor came in to explain what was going to happen, and in what order.

My stepdad left the room, he could not bring himself to stay. My sister stayed till mom closed her eyes asleep, but I stayed until the end and held her hand. She told me she was ready to go, but she needed someone to hold her hand, so I did that. It was hard, but she was my mom and I needed to stay with her.

My mom died at 8:25 on Thursday morning from a long battle with cancer.

I miss her intensely. I feel a great gaping hole in my life.

❤️

[Maark Abbott]

I'm sorry to hear it QT. It's nice you got that time with her, at least. Best wishes for you and your family, we're here if you need us.

[QuickTidal]

Thanks all. The emotion comes in waves, but the kids and my wife are keeping me from collapsing entirely. Your support means tones.

[Morgoth]

QuickTidal, on 20 November 2022 - 01:11 PM, said:

Last Wednesday my mom decided that she wanted to choose medically assisted dying. My sister and I went to be with her at the hospital for the last time. My uncle, and my stepdad were there.

On Wednesday night I checked with her to confirm this was indeed what she wanted. She said yes. She wanted control over when it happens VS facing a heart attack, or stroke, or pneumonia that was caused by her weakened immune system. She could no longer her move her legs, and she had multiple blood clots in her legs and lungs.

We sat with her that night till she said she wanted to rest. We stayed nearby in a hotel to be there in the morning when it was scheduled to take place.

I spent an hour with her Thursday morning, played her music she liked, told her all the things I wanted to tell her and to thank for everything she'd done for me. I cried a lot a she told me not to cry. She told my sister and I how proud she was of us.

I showed her video of my kids telling her how much they loved her and she would be their Christmas angel now (she loved Christmas), and she loudly told my phone how much she loved them back.

The doctor came in to explain what was going to happen, and in what order.

My stepdad left the room, he could not bring himself to stay. My sister stayed till mom closed her eyes asleep, but I stayed until the end and held her hand. She told me she was ready to go, but she needed someone to hold her hand, so I did that. It was hard, but she was my mom and I needed to stay with her.

My mom died at 8:25 on Thursday morning from a long battle with cancer.

I miss her intensely. I feel a great gaping hole in my life.

I am so incredibly sorry to hear about your mom, QT. I cannot begin to imagine how you're feeling. I am glad you got to tell her the things you wanted to, and that you got to cry with her at the end. She's been very lucky to have you by her side.

[champ]

QuickTidal, on 20 November 2022 - 01:11 PM, said:

Last Wednesday my mom decided that she wanted to choose medically assisted dying. My sister and I went to be with her at the hospital for the last time. My uncle, and my stepdad were there.

On Wednesday night I checked with her to confirm this was indeed what she wanted. She said yes. She wanted control over when it happens VS facing a heart attack, or stroke, or pneumonia that was caused by her weakened immune system. She could no longer her move her legs, and she had multiple blood clots in her legs and lungs.

We sat with her that night till she said she wanted to rest. We stayed nearby in a hotel to be there in the morning when it was scheduled to take place.

I spent an hour with her Thursday morning, played her music she liked, told her all the things I wanted to tell her and to thank for everything she'd done for me. I cried a lot a she told me not to cry. She told my sister and I how proud she was of us.

I showed her video of my kids telling her how much they loved her and she would be their Christmas angel now (she loved Christmas), and she loudly told my phone how much she loved them back.

The doctor came in to explain what was going to happen, and in what order.

My stepdad left the room, he could not bring himself to stay. My sister stayed till mom closed her eyes asleep, but I stayed until the end and held her hand. She told me she was ready to go, but she needed someone to hold her hand, so I did that. It was hard, but she was my mom and I needed to stay with her.

My mom died at 8:25 on Thursday morning from a long battle with cancer.

I miss her intensely. I feel a great gaping hole in my life.

Heart breaking reading that mate, I am so sorry for you and your family. You know we are all here for you, if there is any way at all we can help, we will.

[Abyss]

QuickTidal, on 20 November 2022 - 01:11 PM, said:

...

I miss her intensely. I feel a great gaping hole in my life.

Deepest sympathy QT.
Been there, it is hard as hell, and you will never regret that you stayed til the end.
It takes time, but eventually your good memories of her will overtake some of the grief.

[amphibian]

There's a hole in you. You will grow around the hole then surround it with bulwark of memories and dealing with the world.

I'm sorry for your loss and you did right by her + yourself.

[Tiste Simeon]

Not in the same league as what QT is going through but spent all last night with one of the twins in hospital. Turns out she might have bronchiolitis and tonsillitis, possibly as an after effect of having COVID a couple of weeks ago.

So tonight I'm still here. Thankfully we have a nice room, excellent staff and we're not American so this won't bankrupt us but it's still awful to go through. Grateful for my church and parents all of whom are helping massively.

[Lady Bliss]

Tiste Simeon, on 22 November 2022 - 08:27 PM, said:

Not in the same league as what QT is going through but spent all last night with one of the twins in hospital. Turns out she might have bronchiolitis and tonsillitis, possibly as an after effect of having COVID a couple of weeks ago.

So tonight I'm still here. Thankfully we have a nice room, excellent staff and we're not American so this won't bankrupt us but it's still awful to go through. Grateful for my church and parents all of whom are helping massively.

I hope the little one is feeling better soon! Love from the forum.

[Mezla PigDog]

Good luck, Tiste. Such a lottery in winter which little ones will really suffer with respiratory stuff. Really hope you see the back of the hospital soon.

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Tiste Simeon, on 22 November 2022 - 08:27 PM, said:

Not in the same league as what QT is going through but spent all last night with one of the twins in hospital. Turns out she might have bronchiolitis and tonsillitis, possibly as an after effect of having COVID a couple of weeks ago.

So tonight I'm still here. Thankfully we have a nice room, excellent staff and we're not American so this won't bankrupt us but it's still awful to go through. Grateful for my church and parents all of whom are helping massively.

Aww no, I hope your little one feels better soon. Love to you all.

[QuickTidal]

Tiste Simeon, on 22 November 2022 - 08:27 PM, said:

Not in the same league as what QT is going through but spent all last night with one of the twins in hospital. Turns out she might have bronchiolitis and tonsillitis, possibly as an after effect of having COVID a couple of weeks ago.

So tonight I'm still here. Thankfully we have a nice room, excellent staff and we're not American so this won't bankrupt us but it's still awful to go through. Grateful for my church and parents all of whom are helping massively.

That sucks a lot. I hope they mend soon. This time of year is terrible for little ones getting every virus and infection under the sun due to their fledgling immune systems. Support.

[QuickTidal]

The loss of Kevin Conroy (the best Batman), Jason David Frank (the best Power Ranger), and Greg Bear....is a trifecta of genre-loss that sucks even considering the other stuff going on in my life.

I was just getting used to Conroy, when word dropped that JDF had died by his own hand. So sad.

[Abyss]

First i heard that Greg Bear passed. The man was an sf legend AND a founder of San Diego Comic-Con.

[Tiste Simeon]

Thanks guys, she is home now. And while both twins are still suffering a bit (coughs, snot etc) it's great that nothing worse happened.

[Slow Ben]

Great news!