[Tiste Simeon]

Thank you very much everyone I appreciate​ all your kind words. Truly. I'm doing OK and am back in work tomorrow. Still not found my brother's body so we can't organise anything...

Chatting with my parents we don't think he did it to end his life - he had been planning a holiday with friends, was doing well with social services and had just started decorating his flat. He wasn't telling anyone he was depressed or anything and things seemed to be looking up.

However, as I said, he had a host of mental health issues and this meant he had no thought of consequences nor any sense of danger. He was also oddly drawn to the Humber Bridge, and had been stopped trying to climb it before... He's apparently tons a friend that he felt he had to jump off it and this friend managed (so he thought) to dissuade him that this was a bad idea.

The other thing about my brother is that if someone told him something was a bad idea, that was him deciding that he could prove them wrong.

Our thought I'd that he decided he wanted to do it for the sake of being able to do it. Didn't think it was a stupid idea, just felt he had to do it! He tied his coat with his wallet and phone and house keys to the railing and jumped. We wonder if he thought he could go and collect them.

We may be way off or deluding ourselves but I dunno... I guess we'll never know...

Thank you once again for the support and for letting me write far too much about it.

[caladanbrood]

I'm so sorry to hear this Sim. Absolutely devastating, you have our love and support, if you need anything don't hesitate to ask.

[Mentalist]

I'm late reading the news, but I join everyone else. My heartfelt condolences, Tiste, to you and your family.

[Mezla PigDog]

It sounds like a fair assessment to me Tiste. Not at all delusional. Leaving his stuff behind makes it the most obvious conclusion I think.

[Solidsnape]

This is really sad. I'm sorry to hear all this Tiste.
I hope you've got everyone around you to get through this, family is important at times like these.

[worry]

@LadyMTL: If it helps any, evaluators here have rated your posting career performance as Satisfactory-PLUS.

[Macros]

Hangover

[Loki]

I've joined an online movie club of a sort - WoC Film Club. It has a focus on movies with women of colour but everyone is welcome to participate. Basically, everyone has a fortnight to watch the movie and then we live-chat about it via twitter. It's been really good so far as it covers movies I might not otherwise have ever heard of/watch.

The messing with part? The live chats are at 3am Monday morning local time. I am so freakin' tired right now. Sooooo tired.

[LadyMTL]

worry, on 21 April 2017 - 08:18 PM, said:

@LadyMTL: If it helps any, evaluators here have rated your posting career performance as Satisfactory-PLUS.

Heh, thanks, that does help. To quote Sally Field: you like me, you really like me!

[worry]

Are you saying people think you're a taxi driver? But in a truck for some reason?

[Tiste Simeon]

Spent most of this shift dealing with a suicide. Normally I would be quite OK with it but after the week I've had... Bit heavy! I'm OK though it's just bad timing!

[Loki]

Tiste Simeon, on 24 April 2017 - 08:48 PM, said:

Spent most of this shift dealing with a suicide. Normally I would be quite OK with it but after the week I've had... Bit heavy! I'm OK though it's just bad timing!

Life can be 'funny' like that. The first day back at work after my cousin committed suicide I had to deal with a new customer with his exact name (first and last name).
It totally threw me off balance.

Thoughts and prayers are still with you and your family.

[Loki]

My friend had her baby about 6 hours ago and hasn't been able to do a successful feed in that time due to latching trouble and the fact that she isn't producing milk.

The midwife has refused to give her a bottle and keeps telling her to 'just keep trying' as though they have any fucking right to dictate how the baby is fed.

My friend is extremely stressed because she just wants her daughter to have a feed which is making the experience so much more stressful than necessary.

She's at a hospital Matador used to work at so I called him and after listening to him rant about 'useless midwives' (that's not meant as a generalisation for all midwives just the useless ones) he said to tell my friend to demand to speak to a doctor, emphasis on doctor, and so now the baby is fed, my friend isn't stressing (as much), and hopefully a midwife is getting lectured on how to perform her freaking role correctly.

This post has been edited by Loki: 25 April 2017 - 10:26 AM

[Abyss]

Loki, on 25 April 2017 - 10:25 AM, said:

My friend had her baby about 6 hours ago and hasn't been able to do a successful feed in that time due to latching trouble and the fact that she isn't producing milk.

The midwife has refused to give her a bottle and keeps telling her to 'just keep trying' as though they have any fucking right to dictate how the baby is fed.

My friend is extremely stressed because she just wants her daughter to have a feed which is making the experience so much more stressful than necessary.

She's at a hospital Matador used to work at so I called him and after listening to him rant about 'useless midwives' (that's not meant as a generalisation for all midwives just the useless ones) he said to tell my friend to demand to speak to a doctor, emphasis on doctor, and so now the baby is fed, my friend isn't stressing (as much), and hopefully a midwife is getting lectured on how to perform her freaking role correctly.

'refused'... she's a fucking employee. She doesn't get to refuse to pass your friend a tissue, let alone a bottle for a baby.

Midwives who forget they are employees and/or go all radical on their own little agenda (anti-c-section, no pain meds, breastfeed or die, etc etc) should be fined, banned and exiled. I'm all for the role, and for them being paid to fill it, but so many of the people it attracts seem to be the kind of people who shouldn't have control of a goldfish, let alone someone else's birthing experience.

[worry]

I side with the midwife. A baby shouldn't get food until it earns it. Early signs this baby might be a communist.

[Abyss]

Briar King, on 25 April 2017 - 06:36 PM, said:

So I have these big plastic containers with my books in them. About 7 yrs ago I found a puddle of piss along one side of a tub. I cleaned it but didn't think anything made it inside the tub. Today I dig out GotM, it's at the bottom of the tub on the side the piss was on. Yeah it did get inside...I'm just happy that this bottom book was a hardcover instead of the trades. Not cool cleaning crystalline 7year piss off my cover...

Maybe next time use a toilet?

[worry]

You store your books in a toilet?

[Abyss]

It's more of a bidet really.

[Traveller]

Abyss, on 25 April 2017 - 03:07 PM, said:

Loki, on 25 April 2017 - 10:25 AM, said:

My friend had her baby about 6 hours ago and hasn't been able to do a successful feed in that time due to latching trouble and the fact that she isn't producing milk.

The midwife has refused to give her a bottle and keeps telling her to 'just keep trying' as though they have any fucking right to dictate how the baby is fed.

My friend is extremely stressed because she just wants her daughter to have a feed which is making the experience so much more stressful than necessary.

She's at a hospital Matador used to work at so I called him and after listening to him rant about 'useless midwives' (that's not meant as a generalisation for all midwives just the useless ones) he said to tell my friend to demand to speak to a doctor, emphasis on doctor, and so now the baby is fed, my friend isn't stressing (as much), and hopefully a midwife is getting lectured on how to perform her freaking role correctly.

'refused'... she's a fucking employee. She doesn't get to refuse to pass your friend a tissue, let alone a bottle for a baby.

Midwives who forget they are employees and/or go all radical on their own little agenda (anti-c-section, no pain meds, breastfeed or die, etc etc) should be fined, banned and exiled. I'm all for the role, and for them being paid to fill it, but so many of the people it attracts seem to be the kind of people who shouldn't have control of a goldfish, let alone someone else's birthing experience.

Midwives here pull this sort of shit all the time. Had one the other day just blithely taking off the patients ecg and blood pressure monitoring in the middle of a C section so they could have 'skin to skin', because you know, that's more important than monitoring during surgery.

[Loki]

My friend contacted me all worried and upset because she was told that her baby has fluid in her lungs due to the quick birth and will likely need to have it suctioned but that they will try to massage the fluid out first.

I was like...that only sounds half reasonable.

First question: did a doctor tell you this?
"No, the midwife."

UGH!

After getting more information I had Matador call.

The baby doesn't have fluid and there's no reason to suspect fluid. The midwife was simply giving her unqualified incorrect 'diagnosis' based on nothing more than the fact that the baby wasn't drinking as much milk as the midwife thought she should be.

Edit: I'm still ranting about this. Even overlooking the stupidity of fluid in lungs affecting feeding, if there was any chance of the lungs having fluid you wouldn't be massaging the baby. She was referring to how babies sometimes still have fluid in their stomachs, which does happen, but this midwife was so dumb she had confused lungs with the stomach. How is that level of ignorance allowed to work in a freakin hospital? Ugh

This post has been edited by Loki: 26 April 2017 - 02:42 AM