[QuickTidal]

 amphibian, on 06 October 2016 - 04:20 PM, said:

I don't get how there's male lactation specialists. A good bit of that particular profession would logically rely on experience...

The scary part is that this guy was actually SUPER snarky about doctors in a more recent email. My wife emailed him and mentioned it was getting worse and if she should go to the ER, and he said if she felt it was needed...and added that "IF the ER doctors thought better than him, then they should educate themselves about breastfeeding"

Seriously, his attitude was that TRAINED physicians...don't know as much as he does about breastfeeding.

The even worse bit? He had a $75 consultation fee for every visit. My wife went three times (and would have gone a fourth before this all played out) that's not covered by OHIP. So that's $150 out of pocket for an asshole who was SO arrogant and egotistical that my wife got a serious infection due to his neglectful charlatan hippie instructions.

[worry]

Too little too late, I know, but never trust a hippie.

[Andorion]

 QuickTidal, on 06 October 2016 - 05:33 PM, said:

 amphibian, on 06 October 2016 - 04:20 PM, said:

I don't get how there's male lactation specialists. A good bit of that particular profession would logically rely on experience...

The scary part is that this guy was actually SUPER snarky about doctors in a more recent email. My wife emailed him and mentioned it was getting worse and if she should go to the ER, and he said if she felt it was needed...and added that "IF the ER doctors thought better than him, then they should educate themselves about breastfeeding"

Seriously, his attitude was that TRAINED physicians...don't know as much as he does about breastfeeding.

The even worse bit? He had a $75 consultation fee for every visit. My wife went three times (and would have gone a fourth before this all played out) that's not covered by OHIP. So that's $150 out of pocket for an asshole who was SO arrogant and egotistical that my wife got a serious infection due to his neglectful charlatan hippie instructions.

What type of qualifications does a person have to have to be a lactation specialist? Are there courses? A basic medical or nursing degree?

[Andorion]

How bad is Matthew exactly? i just woke and according to the news Florida is supposed to be evaquating? As in the entire state?

[worry]

You start as an entry level Female Body Inspector and work your way up the agency.

[Andorion]

 High Geek of Crawfish, on 07 October 2016 - 01:43 AM, said:

 Andorion, on 07 October 2016 - 01:18 AM, said:

How bad is Matthew exactly? i just woke and according to the news Florida is supposed to be evaquating? As in the entire state?

It is bad. Most of the coast is getting the fuck out the way from FL to SC which is the smart thing to do with a cat 4 storm

I assume that the Mexico coast is ok? So you are ok? This is bad for the Atlantic coast?

[Andorion]

 High Geek of Crawfish, on 07 October 2016 - 02:17 AM, said:

It's going to be tremendously bad to AC. I'd not be surprised one bit if it's more costly then Rita, Katrina, & Sandy combined if it rides the coast from FL to Carolina's esp if eye stays over water.

Mexico and me will not feel a thing from it.

I have got an uncle in Florida - Miami I think. I hope he evacuated. He has a family and kids.

[Slow Ben]

Damn QT, that sucks man. Glad the misses is ok.

[Nicodimas]

Real post..so disclosure..not so much fun. Gnaw..I believe your more right than anyone i know here....really. Gnaw, I was always so so mad. That's on me.


Choices: Gonna get laid off soon. yeah its close...corporate America officially let me down. I pulled up an excel document, did the numbers, and literally showed my manager the amount of work is 3x times my peer's over the last six months. Wow. I went to HR and they told me is this my problem of communication. If my manager gives me feedback, I am supposed to follow it and asked me about how I feel and think lately...and I ended the call there. Like what..you want me disclose something potentially harmful...F!! you. I honestly over the last six month would never believe *anyone* if they expressed how this has gone. It's wild. I'm still alive and swinging..they aren't going to beat me. No amount of work is going to beat me. I did get in trouble under the new policy of taking time off and it was not requested inside the appropriate amount of time today. Yes...I'm interviewing for new jobs and they set up timelines..inside the same week. On the job front I don't want to be that guy that doesn't express lessons were not learned...i get the opposite side of how this looks too.

Options!!!

A) Sell off house. collect profit. finish masters <1 year away>. move home. get judged.
Sell off house. collect profit. become a bum. travel and drink.
c) Sell off house. collect profit. accept underemployment in new career and hope i get promoted.
d) keep house. job hunt. dip into savings....-11- months worth. hope for the best. /pray
e) keep house. become a raging alcoholic. max credit cards out. claim bankruptcy.
f) sell off house. become a EMT <$14/hr>. get my paramedic... I have my emt-b for a hiking group i manage....
h) rent my house out. move home. accept random job. get promoted. move back to house..when stable. get judged.
i) keep house. career switch. start somewhere i don't know anything about...and make ends meet. /housepoor.
j) sell off house. join the military
k) < i am the only one here with 200+ college hours right...yeah + multiple licenses...> figure out a way to become a lifelong student. is this possible..im in.
l) meet girl..soon. curtail her to meet up with random men and have her hook and collect money to pay off for my expensives
m) ww3 breaks out soon..form community. Be leader. Resist.
n) keep house. go back to same job in same field. somewhere. sales. sales. sales. sales. sales....
0) sell house. move away. start fresh.
p) become a bum.
q) stay at house. try my damnest to get hired...run out of money. bum money from mom. be that guy
R) become a magician. < this is me just losing my mind>
s) keep house. don't try hard to get a job. run out of money.
t) seduce random woman. she is my suger momma. live life as a king.
u) become a politician. profit off telling people what they want to hear..
v) form cult.
w) quit work. read every book known to man with savings. have fun.
x) sell house. sell off 401k. immigrate to Czech republic...Prague looks amazing..


There is a shit ton of options in life...so the last chapter of my life is ending..and on to the next one.

This whole experience has taught me a lot about pride and humility. I am going to just take things in stride and be happier all around. I know it will be okay..just scared.

Thank you Malazan peeps .

experience trumps perception.

This post has been edited by Nicodimas: 07 October 2016 - 05:28 AM

[Morgoth]

Do you like your house?

Shitty situation though, Nico. I'm sure you'll figure it out, but I don't envy you the stress you must be under.

[QuickTidal]

 Andorion, on 07 October 2016 - 01:09 AM, said:

 QuickTidal, on 06 October 2016 - 05:33 PM, said:

 amphibian, on 06 October 2016 - 04:20 PM, said:

I don't get how there's male lactation specialists. A good bit of that particular profession would logically rely on experience...

The scary part is that this guy was actually SUPER snarky about doctors in a more recent email. My wife emailed him and mentioned it was getting worse and if she should go to the ER, and he said if she felt it was needed...and added that "IF the ER doctors thought better than him, then they should educate themselves about breastfeeding"

Seriously, his attitude was that TRAINED physicians...don't know as much as he does about breastfeeding.

The even worse bit? He had a $75 consultation fee for every visit. My wife went three times (and would have gone a fourth before this all played out) that's not covered by OHIP. So that's $150 out of pocket for an asshole who was SO arrogant and egotistical that my wife got a serious infection due to his neglectful charlatan hippie instructions.

What type of qualifications does a person have to have to be a lactation specialist? Are there courses? A basic medical or nursing degree?

He is, it turns out, a medical doctor (A paediatrician) by schooling and initial trade...but the reviews you find of him online are mostly how he's all about hawking his shit and his time to blather on about how wrong everyone is about breastfeeding and how right he is.

But the fact that other hospitals full of doctors consider him to be a "hippie" (their words, not mine) who they never send patients to....speaks volumes.

[Andorion]

 QuickTidal, on 07 October 2016 - 01:07 PM, said:

 Andorion, on 07 October 2016 - 01:09 AM, said:

 QuickTidal, on 06 October 2016 - 05:33 PM, said:

 amphibian, on 06 October 2016 - 04:20 PM, said:

I don't get how there's male lactation specialists. A good bit of that particular profession would logically rely on experience...

The scary part is that this guy was actually SUPER snarky about doctors in a more recent email. My wife emailed him and mentioned it was getting worse and if she should go to the ER, and he said if she felt it was needed...and added that "IF the ER doctors thought better than him, then they should educate themselves about breastfeeding"

Seriously, his attitude was that TRAINED physicians...don't know as much as he does about breastfeeding.

The even worse bit? He had a $75 consultation fee for every visit. My wife went three times (and would have gone a fourth before this all played out) that's not covered by OHIP. So that's $150 out of pocket for an asshole who was SO arrogant and egotistical that my wife got a serious infection due to his neglectful charlatan hippie instructions.

What type of qualifications does a person have to have to be a lactation specialist? Are there courses? A basic medical or nursing degree?

He is, it turns out, a medical doctor (A paediatrician) by schooling and initial trade...but the reviews you find of him online are mostly how he's all about hawking his shit and his time to blather on about how wrong everyone is about breastfeeding and how right he is.

But the fact that other hospitals full of doctors consider him to be a "hippie" (their words, not mine) who they never send patients to....speaks volumes.

Oh dear. That doesn't sound good at all.

These type of people make me very very angry. As a doctor you have a certain set of obligations. You can't just play around with patients' health.

Hope she is doing better QT?

[QuickTidal]

 Andorion, on 07 October 2016 - 01:16 PM, said:

Hope she is doing better QT?

Thanks man, she is. The nurse has come once so far to change the packing in the wound (and she's on pain meds for it), and all the red swelling and the red/purple from the infection has gone away now. She's got another few weeks for it to heal all the way, but she's managing it well. I am on the mend from my cold now so I'm able to help more. I have to wash her hair as she is not allowed to have a shower, which we did last night for the first time and both of us were giggling about it (My hair is short, but hers is long so I was only putting in as much soap as I use normally, and it wasn't nearly enough), so her spirits are higher than they might be. Our Daughter has been a blessing, not just for cheering us up, but with the fact that she's started to sleep more often and allowed both of us to get more sleep. It's like she knows her mom is going through something and is obliging her as a result.

[amphibian]

This might be heresy right now, but it's also probably because you two finally pushed her out of her comfort zone with the formula and having only one parent around. Babies generally adjust after a short period of crying till puking and so on.

[Mentalist]

 QuickTidal, on 07 October 2016 - 01:07 PM, said:

 Andorion, on 07 October 2016 - 01:09 AM, said:

 QuickTidal, on 06 October 2016 - 05:33 PM, said:

 amphibian, on 06 October 2016 - 04:20 PM, said:

I don't get how there's male lactation specialists. A good bit of that particular profession would logically rely on experience...

The scary part is that this guy was actually SUPER snarky about doctors in a more recent email. My wife emailed him and mentioned it was getting worse and if she should go to the ER, and he said if she felt it was needed...and added that "IF the ER doctors thought better than him, then they should educate themselves about breastfeeding"

Seriously, his attitude was that TRAINED physicians...don't know as much as he does about breastfeeding.

The even worse bit? He had a $75 consultation fee for every visit. My wife went three times (and would have gone a fourth before this all played out) that's not covered by OHIP. So that's $150 out of pocket for an asshole who was SO arrogant and egotistical that my wife got a serious infection due to his neglectful charlatan hippie instructions.

What type of qualifications does a person have to have to be a lactation specialist? Are there courses? A basic medical or nursing degree?

He is, it turns out, a medical doctor (A paediatrician) by schooling and initial trade...but the reviews you find of him online are mostly how he's all about hawking his shit and his time to blather on about how wrong everyone is about breastfeeding and how right he is.

But the fact that other hospitals full of doctors consider him to be a "hippie" (their words, not mine) who they never send patients to....speaks volumes.

If he's a licensed MD practicing in Ontario, you should file a complaint with CPSO. It may not do anything, but it'll give him some unpleasant moments at least.

[QuickTidal]

 amphibian, on 07 October 2016 - 02:38 PM, said:

This might be heresy right now, but it's also probably because you two finally pushed her out of her comfort zone with the formula and having only one parent around. Babies generally adjust after a short period of crying till puking and so on.

Not heresy at all. That's entirely possible.

 Mentalist, on 07 October 2016 - 03:47 PM, said:

If he's a licensed MD practicing in Ontario, you should file a complaint with CPSO. It may not do anything, but it'll give him some unpleasant moments at least.

Yeah, I had someone else mention that as well. I may do just that as I feel he really screwed the pooch here. Thanks Ment.

[Maark Abbott]

Gustav died.

The person whose cat had him fed him adult dry food as his first type of food.

Cheap Jagermeister go. I'm fucking done today.

[EmperorMagus]

 Maark Abbott, on 07 October 2016 - 06:43 PM, said:

Gustav died.

The person whose cat had him fed him adult dry food as his first type of food.

Cheap Jagermeister go. I'm fucking done today.

That sucks.

[Lady Bliss]

 QuickTidal, on 06 October 2016 - 01:41 PM, said:

Wife ended up in emergency surgery for an abscess and infection from breast-feeding that (because she went to a lactation specialist who was a little shitstain who kept telling her to massage it out and not bother with antibiotics...it got worse...honesty, I want to call this MFer and give him a piece of my mind) required surgery to deal with. I'm sick, so there I am trying to look after my 6-week old daughter on my own wearing a mask to not pass my cold to her, who was inconsolable that mommy was gone for 48hrs...and add to that my wife was going into surgery and I couldn't be there with her....didn't' sleep, and my mother finally was able to come and help me out and get my daughter to at least calm down.

Goddamn lactation specialist Charlatan.

Wife is now home and doing decently (though still in pain, the hospital sent her home with pain med regimen though) and daughter had formula for almost two straight days and slept more than she's ever slept and was happier than I've ever seen her. Trying to convince my wife to stop breastfeeding after struggling with it every day for so long and going to formula....is seeming like a herculean task that just gets her upset with me.

Sigh.

That is so awful QT! I'm so sorry you and your wife had to go through this.

On the breast feeding, a lot of women feel like they HAVE to do it to be a good mom and bond with their babies. From my own experience, I frankly felt a lot of peer pressure from women I knew, and tried it even though I didn't really want to. My daughter ended up having a lot of food allergies so she went on formula anyways. And we still bonded and she was perfectly fine!

I've heard bottle babies usually sleep better, because formula is more filling.

[Traveller]

 QuickTidal, on 07 October 2016 - 01:30 PM, said:

 Andorion, on 07 October 2016 - 01:16 PM, said:

Hope she is doing better QT?

Thanks man, she is. The nurse has come once so far to change the packing in the wound (and she's on pain meds for it), and all the red swelling and the red/purple from the infection has gone away now. She's got another few weeks for it to heal all the way, but she's managing it well. I am on the mend from my cold now so I'm able to help more. I have to wash her hair as she is not allowed to have a shower, which we did last night for the first time and both of us were giggling about it (My hair is short, but hers is long so I was only putting in as much soap as I use normally, and it wasn't nearly enough), so her spirits are higher than they might be. Our Daughter has been a blessing, not just for cheering us up, but with the fact that she's started to sleep more often and allowed both of us to get more sleep. It's like she knows her mom is going through something and is obliging her as a result.

My wife got mastitis after about three weeks of breastfeeding our daughter. She'd started using one of those pumps that are supposed to help you feed them using bottles during times you're sleeping, as well letting off the pressure when they're not feeding. But she got really bad mastitis, couldn't carry on, so we switched to formula.

So while on one side she was feeling all guilty for not being able to continue.. we both got our best/first sleep in ages! That stuff fills them up properly in one go.

Hope mrs QT continues to get better, and you get some rest.

This post has been edited by Traveller: 07 October 2016 - 08:04 PM