[QuickTidal]

Family uselessness really comes out of the woodwork when something SLIGHTLY inconveniences them.

Nearly-due, heavily pregnant (and uncomfortable) wife to her retired father: I have to bring the dog to your place today (our dog plays with their dog almost every day for a few hours) as it's too hot to walk him in this heat (we live in a condo, they have a backyard).

Her father: Well that's inconvenient, they are coming to do the deck today and they use vacuums (dog hates vacuums). Continues to grumble about it and be pissed off.


Meanwhile, my nearly-due, heavily pregnant (and uncomfortable) wife has spent more than a MONTH of her summer not only advocating for her mothers knee-surgery rehab, but helping her father out by being there every day to alleviate the strain on him.

I just can't anymore. The amount of kindness my wife unloads onto her family, in comparison with the amount they show her in return is staggeringly different. She's not been able to enjoy and relax during her pregnancy, she's literally been doing things for everyone in her family who can't since the beginning of the year. I'm not even exaggerating. Meanwhile no one does anything for her, and they fucking complain when she needs the slightest favour.

[Macros]

You can choose your friends, but not your family.
I think every family has at least one ungrateful lazy shit

[QuickTidal]

Macros, on 03 August 2016 - 01:28 PM, said:

You can choose your friends, but not your family.
I think every family has at least one ungrateful lazy shit

Yep. This is true. I think we have more than one in fact.

[Gorefest]

Macros, on 03 August 2016 - 01:28 PM, said:

You can choose your friends, but not your family.
I think every family has at least one ungrateful lazy shit

We make great sources of anekdotes, though! In twenty years time you'll think back to us fondly and go "Oh, that uncle Gorefest and his silly ways" with a little amused shake of the head.


On a different note, I just received a delivery of cell culture plates that I was convinced I hadn't ordered. Checked the product code and to my surprise I actually did order the buggers. Back in March 2012. Over 4.5 years ago. And our finance team actually paid for them as well, as the grant was still active. Wow.

[JPK]

QuickTidal, on 03 August 2016 - 01:36 PM, said:

Macros, on 03 August 2016 - 01:28 PM, said:

You can choose your friends, but not your family.
I think every family has at least one ungrateful lazy shit

Yep. This is true. I think we have more than one in fact.

You have my sympathies with this one QT. Family is one of the hardest things to deal with imho. It's supposed to be a group of people that you can call and rely on - no questions asked. Instead, it's a group of people who constantly bitch about how you're not doing your part, but only call when they need favors.

I suspect that classic model family does exist somewhere, but I sure as hell have never seen them.

[Gorefest]

JPK, on 03 August 2016 - 03:16 PM, said:

You have my sympathies with this one QT. Family is one of the hardest things to deal with imho. It's supposed to be a group of people that you can call and rely on - no questions asked. Instead, it's a group of people who constantly bitch about how you're not doing your part, but only call when they need favors.

Reminds me of an episode of Black Books where Fran discovers her Eastern European roots (minute 7:50).

This post has been edited by Gorefest: 03 August 2016 - 03:41 PM

[worry]

I think Cap'n Crunch changed its recipe cuz these Crunch Berries are getting hella soggy hella fast. No wonder they haven't been emphasizing anti-sog in the ad campaigns lately. This is totally bogus.

[Una]

QuickTidal, on 03 August 2016 - 01:10 PM, said:

I just can't anymore. The amount of kindness my wife unloads onto her family, in comparison with the amount they show her in return is staggeringly different. She's not been able to enjoy and relax during her pregnancy, she's literally been doing things for everyone in her family who can't since the beginning of the year. I'm not even exaggerating. Meanwhile no one does anything for her, and they fucking complain when she needs the slightest favour.

It's harder for daughters too. I'm sure there are multiple reasons for it, but the sense of obligation seems to get hammered in harder for us than it does for sons. If you suggested her to just say no once in a while, I have a feeling she'd be like, "But I can't. Who else would do it?" My brother just has to say, "I'm too busy" and gets a bunch of pity about how busy he is. But if I were to do the same, I'd be getting the cold shoulder for months.

[Abyss]

Kanyemander West, on 03 August 2016 - 06:29 PM, said:

I think Cap'n Crunch changed its recipe cuz these Crunch Berries are getting hella soggy hella fast. No wonder they haven't been emphasizing anti-sog in the ad campaigns lately. This is totally bogus.

I understand they have recently reduced the broken glass content by almost 30%.

[Abyss]

Gorefest, on 03 August 2016 - 03:07 PM, said:

...On a different note, I just received a delivery of cell culture plates that I was convinced I hadn't ordered. Checked the product code and to my surprise I actually did order the buggers. Back in March 2012. Over 4.5 years ago. And our finance team actually paid for them as well, as the grant was still active. Wow.

I've seen pr0n sci fi movies that start like this.

[Abyss]

QuickTidal, on 03 August 2016 - 01:10 PM, said:

Family uselessness really comes out of the woodwork when something SLIGHTLY inconveniences them....
... She's not been able to enjoy and relax during her pregnancy, she's literally been doing things for everyone in her family who can't since the beginning of the year. I'm not even exaggerating. Meanwhile no one does anything for her, and they fucking complain when she needs the slightest favour.

You might want to have a nice chill pre-emptive discussion with her how re how that's almost certainly going to have to change once baby arrives.

Also, key phrase re dealing with such family - "Sorry. Baby. Can't.".

[worry]

Abyss, on 03 August 2016 - 07:31 PM, said:

Kanyemander West, on 03 August 2016 - 06:29 PM, said:

I think Cap'n Crunch changed its recipe cuz these Crunch Berries are getting hella soggy hella fast. No wonder they haven't been emphasizing anti-sog in the ad campaigns lately. This is totally bogus.

I understand they have recently reduced the broken glass content by almost 30%.

You might be right. My palate remains surprisingly unscraped.

[Abyss]

Kanyemander West, on 03 August 2016 - 08:11 PM, said:

Abyss, on 03 August 2016 - 07:31 PM, said:

Kanyemander West, on 03 August 2016 - 06:29 PM, said:

I think Cap'n Crunch changed its recipe cuz these Crunch Berries are getting hella soggy hella fast. No wonder they haven't been emphasizing anti-sog in the ad campaigns lately. This is totally bogus.

I understand they have recently reduced the broken glass content by almost 30%.

You might be right. My palate remains surprisingly unscraped.

I know! ...and Capn Crunch just doesn't taste right without the blood and severed mouth tissue.

[Tiste Simeon]

Tsundoku, on 03 August 2016 - 12:05 PM, said:

Yeah, that's like 50% of your salary isn't it?

More than 50℅ since Brexit!

[Gust Hubb]

Ah the down. Really depressed, more tired and hopeless. I flick through photos of beautiful women in seemingly vibrant lives and feel passed by as no one responds as usual. I want to have a life again, but feel everyone is too busy or distracted to bother. It's the loneliness that kills.

[Abyss]

Briar King, on 04 August 2016 - 04:43 AM, said:

Man I feel so fucking rotten even though I was left with little choice last night. I tried every night for over a month to trap that possum so I could relocate it. It just wouldn't cooperate. I don't kill unless I plan to eat but I shot it to prevent further damage to my vette and to stop having my mutt having a fit at 3Am. Unfortunately it didn't drop but climbed back up underneath vette in its spot where I can't get it and blood was puddling down. I still don't know if I killed it and thats why I feel bad. Damn my aim I didn't want the fella to suffer. That's going to be hell trying to get that body out.

If i'm ever going to bleed out and die from a gunshot wound, i want it to be in a vette.

[Coltaine -]

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 12:47 AM, said:

Ah the down. Really depressed, more tired and hopeless. I flick through photos of beautiful women in seemingly vibrant lives and feel passed by as no one responds as usual. I want to have a life again, but feel everyone is too busy or distracted to bother. It's the loneliness that kills.

[Gives Gust Hubb a hug]

[Aptorian]

Gust Hubb, on 04 August 2016 - 12:47 AM, said:

Ah the down. Really depressed, more tired and hopeless. I flick through photos of beautiful women in seemingly vibrant lives and feel passed by as no one responds as usual. I want to have a life again, but feel everyone is too busy or distracted to bother. It's the loneliness that kills.

Time to start self-prescribing happy pills, Gust? Or maybe speak with a councilor? You are going through a pseudo-grief period.

This post has been edited by Apt: 04 August 2016 - 08:05 AM

[Gorefest]

Abyss, on 03 August 2016 - 07:34 PM, said:

Gorefest, on 03 August 2016 - 03:07 PM, said:

...On a different note, I just received a delivery of cell culture plates that I was convinced I hadn't ordered. Checked the product code and to my surprise I actually did order the buggers. Back in March 2012. Over 4.5 years ago. And our finance team actually paid for them as well, as the grant was still active. Wow.

I've seen pr0n sci fi movies that start like this.

My life is brimming with excitement. Next week we are expecting a new freezer for the lab, I can hardly contain myself thinking about what epic disasters could be awaiting us. Last time they gave us a fridge-freezer instead of a freezer and subsequently the delivery guy had to chase me back down through the hospital corridors to exchange the items. Oh, how we laughed. Life doesn't get much more exhilarating than this.

[Gorefest]

Briar King, on 04 August 2016 - 06:27 AM, said:

Knife attack in London. Going here since there's not an England thread besides Brexit I know of

Seems to be a mental health related incident. So probably no IS instigated attack.