[Tiste Simeon]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 06 July 2016 - 08:42 PM, said:

Split up with my other half. Six and a half years.

It's mutual, and it's very calm and amicable. We've just essentially lived like friends for the best part of a year, and it's taken the frank discussion for us both to admit it. Nobody's fault and nobody's done anything terrible - nothing immediately is going to change. While there'll be some weird for a bit whilever we can do the amicable flatmate thing, we're paying a cheap mortgage on a nice house and the spare cash we're not spending on otherwise more expensive rent gives us space to save and build up a buffer before we take the plunge and sell up.

I am well aware there's going to be some real emotional trauma and it won't stay this calm in the immediate future. But I'm not strictly unhappy. Sad for what it was, but it could have been sadder in so many ways. Seems like the right decision for us both.

I'm glad for you that it isn't too traumatising and I hope things work out without too much upset.

Centzon Totochtin, on 07 July 2016 - 08:54 AM, said:

My uncle died this morning This is one of the uncles we liked and actually talked to. Not unexpected, he was terminally ill, but we thought he had a few more months.

Oh man, that sucks, sorry to hear that.

[Mentalist]

As awesome as the long weekend was, combined with the preceding week of intense deadlines, it totally messed up my exercising schedule. And also my ability to get up the first time my alarm goes off. Been sleeping in most of the week. (and still not able to shed the extra kilos from all the alcohol consumed). Not happy about this at all, but lacking motivation to get on top of things properly atm.

Gonna have to get intense once the Euros are over on Sun, get back into a semblance of a routine.

This post has been edited by Mentalist: 08 July 2016 - 02:01 PM

[QuickTidal]

Centzon Totochtin, on 07 July 2016 - 08:54 AM, said:

My uncle died this morning This is one of the uncles we liked and actually talked to. Not unexpected, he was terminally ill, but we thought he had a few more months.

Oh jeez, I'm really sorry to hear that. Losing family members is exceptionally tough even when they are ill.

[Traveller]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 06 July 2016 - 08:42 PM, said:

Split up with my other half. Six and a half years.

It's mutual, and it's very calm and amicable. We've just essentially lived like friends for the best part of a year, and it's taken the frank discussion for us both to admit it. Nobody's fault and nobody's done anything terrible - nothing immediately is going to change. While there'll be some weird for a bit whilever we can do the amicable flatmate thing, we're paying a cheap mortgage on a nice house and the spare cash we're not spending on otherwise more expensive rent gives us space to save and build up a buffer before we take the plunge and sell up.

I am well aware there's going to be some real emotional trauma and it won't stay this calm in the immediate future. But I'm not strictly unhappy. Sad for what it was, but it could have been sadder in so many ways. Seems like the right decision for us both.

I did the same - when I was 22. Six years we'd been together, our parents were pretty much expecting engagement news when we realised that we were good, good friends but we wanted more, in different directions.

It was sad, it was weird, but it was the right thing to do. Some people want to hang on to something 'safe' and don't dare admit that things could be better elsewhere; its a brave step but one you'll hopefully look back on as a positive one.

[Lady Bliss]

I couldn't find an actual workflow of the software that we are trying to deploy tonight, but I feel like this diagram is an accurate representation of the process that we are using. The cat represents the software and the door is the server production environment.

[Darkwatch]

Abyss, on 04 July 2016 - 01:37 PM, said:

Darkwatch, on 01 July 2016 - 09:21 PM, said:

Tiste Simeon, on 01 July 2016 - 09:08 PM, said:

I think your problem DW is that no-one is sure you actually exist or not. Including your doctors...

If only I could convince the infection that I don't exist.

This is either a brilliant basis for a scifi story, or an existential debate for the millennia.

It could turn into a Kafkaesque sci-fi psychological horror story about a creeping infection in which the choices are exist and become engulfed or cease to exist not be infected anymore (while not existing, which means not being alive nor dead).

Or into a rather interesting dialectic work about someone arguing their non-existence to the infection, kind of like the argument they have with the bomb in Dark Star. The infection will of course have its own arguments that you do exist, and me even call into question your sentience arguing that you are only substrate to its growth. Then the infection could suffer a form of solipsistic collapse in which its existence becomes a Kafkaesque psychological horror story about the living substrate with opinions and its very nature as a parasite that may only be hallucinating everything and that if it can only hallucinate itself as a parasite then it is a poor form of existence.

I may have new ideas for some NaNoWriMo runs.

[Gust Hubb]

Good car trip home but I think things are overshadowed by returning my boys to their mum, an up coming busy month with the same money problems as usual and generally feeling lonely and hopeless.

[TheRetiredBridgeburner]

Traveller, on 08 July 2016 - 08:07 PM, said:

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 06 July 2016 - 08:42 PM, said:

Split up with my other half. Six and a half years.

It's mutual, and it's very calm and amicable. We've just essentially lived like friends for the best part of a year, and it's taken the frank discussion for us both to admit it. Nobody's fault and nobody's done anything terrible - nothing immediately is going to change. While there'll be some weird for a bit whilever we can do the amicable flatmate thing, we're paying a cheap mortgage on a nice house and the spare cash we're not spending on otherwise more expensive rent gives us space to save and build up a buffer before we take the plunge and sell up.

I am well aware there's going to be some real emotional trauma and it won't stay this calm in the immediate future. But I'm not strictly unhappy. Sad for what it was, but it could have been sadder in so many ways. Seems like the right decision for us both.

I did the same - when I was 22. Six years we'd been together, our parents were pretty much expecting engagement news when we realised that we were good, good friends but we wanted more, in different directions.

It was sad, it was weird, but it was the right thing to do. Some people want to hang on to something 'safe' and don't dare admit that things could be better elsewhere; its a brave step but one you'll hopefully look back on as a positive one.

Cheers Traveller.

I think so far it's proven to be correct. We're both very fortunate in that our parents are in a position to give us a little help to set up again so we don't have too many money worries, and things are already quite comfortable again with minimal awkward aside from the odd moment. I think it just goes to show it was the right decision

This post has been edited by TheRetiredBridgeburner: 09 July 2016 - 06:01 PM

[Traveller]

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 09 July 2016 - 06:01 PM, said:

Traveller, on 08 July 2016 - 08:07 PM, said:

TheRetiredBridgeburner, on 06 July 2016 - 08:42 PM, said:

Split up with my other half. Six and a half years.

It's mutual, and it's very calm and amicable. We've just essentially lived like friends for the best part of a year, and it's taken the frank discussion for us both to admit it. Nobody's fault and nobody's done anything terrible - nothing immediately is going to change. While there'll be some weird for a bit whilever we can do the amicable flatmate thing, we're paying a cheap mortgage on a nice house and the spare cash we're not spending on otherwise more expensive rent gives us space to save and build up a buffer before we take the plunge and sell up.

I am well aware there's going to be some real emotional trauma and it won't stay this calm in the immediate future. But I'm not strictly unhappy. Sad for what it was, but it could have been sadder in so many ways. Seems like the right decision for us both.

I did the same - when I was 22. Six years we'd been together, our parents were pretty much expecting engagement news when we realised that we were good, good friends but we wanted more, in different directions.

It was sad, it was weird, but it was the right thing to do. Some people want to hang on to something 'safe' and don't dare admit that things could be better elsewhere; its a brave step but one you'll hopefully look back on as a positive one.

Cheers Traveller.

I think so far it's proven to be correct. We're both very fortunate in that our parents are in a position to give us a little help to set up again so we don't have too many money worries, and things are already quite comfortable again with minimal awkward aside from the odd moment. I think it just goes to show it was the right decision

My only 'problem' that arose from such am amicable breakup has been with subsequent relationships - I might have just ended up with jealous types but I've had no end of trouble by having a long relationship in my past with someone my family is still on good terms with! I was always up front about it but it seems that girls want ex girlfriends to be firmly in the past - not living near your brother and popping up on your family members fb posts every now and then.

[Raymond Luxury Yacht]

Got some blood work back from the doctor. Cholesterol bad, liver functions bad, glucose levels bad enough that it will probably be diagnosed as diabetes pending further tests. Basically my body is rebelling against my being a fatty. Shit. It's all my own damn fault too. I knew I was borderline on all of these several years ago and did nothing to correct it and now I'm fucked.

[amphibian]

You have time and the help to manage things. Hope the transition to a healthier life isn't rough.

[Gust Hubb]

Home. First thing to greet me and then die is a cockroach. Just look around and wonder how it will all work out sometimes.

[Messremb]

Morgoth, on 04 July 2016 - 07:16 AM, said:

Gust Hubb, on 04 July 2016 - 05:02 AM, said:

Just caught up on FB for the first time in a while, largely out of curiosity. My gods my ex is an activist. I just am incredulous how frequently she is on and how much she posts. Not bad things mind you; she looks like she will be fighting against a lot of the evils of our society, especially as one of the persecuted herself. But I swear, I look at all that stuff and think we were both just holding each other back. I can't have a functioning, content, and happy life with her there. Obviously, the same in the reverse is true. I expected this to some degree, but I am still just shocked. Who did I marry and more importantly, who did I divorce?

Having an ex-wife, or any ex, on facebook can be risky business.

That all depends on the type of people you are. I've got 3 ex's on FB, no issues at all. One almost never uses it, another is on often (generally with updates on her burlesque dancing...) and the middle one just occasionally. My wife is FB friends with the last two of them (the two that she's met) too and no problems there either. We went to one of their weddings, had a fabulous time. They couldn't make ours alas

I guess I just don't hang with the jealous types.

[Abyss]

Gust Hubb, on 10 July 2016 - 05:47 AM, said:

Home. First thing to greet me and then die is a cockroach. Just look around and wonder how it will all work out sometimes.

Imagine how the cockroach feels....umm, 'felt'.

[Gust Hubb]

Pretty spectacular up to that point I imagine.

[Mentalist]

Portugal won. I gotta listen to celebrations all around for the rest of the day.

[worry]

That begs the question: would you rather be the roacher, or the roachee?

[Gust Hubb]

Kanyemander West, on 10 July 2016 - 10:12 PM, said:

That begs the question: would you rather be the roacher, or the roachee?

Depends on the day.

[Mentalist]

Finally got around putting in my new SSD. prior to doing that, did a lot of backing up to clear up my primary drive to make sure I can shunt my OS onto the SSD.

When everything is done, I find out that I'm missing a SATA cable. I was fairly sure I had an extra one lying around, but can't find it now.

I'll probably have to use the one from my DVD-ROM, but it's gonna be annoying, cuz now I won't get this whole thing fully done for another full week. And since I'm away next weekend, this project is gonna stretch for even longer.

[QuickTidal]

Mentalist, on 10 July 2016 - 09:40 PM, said:

Portugal won. I gotta listen to celebrations all around for the rest of the day.

This is why I'm SO glad I no longer live in the Little Portugal part of the city anymore. Last time they won something (a fair number of years ago now) the honking and celebrations lasted like 24hrs...and when I say honking I mean them driving down our street, in traffic, and putting a brick on the horn so it continuously sounds forever. I was ready to go friggin mad from it. I get it, you're excited and want to celebrate...but can you MAYBE not disturb all the neighbors with your overzealousness? And it's only ever Portugal too, whenever another team wins something (even when the Raps were doing well) it's NEVER that bad.