What's messing with your groove?

#16960 Loki

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Posted 12 March 2015 - 12:42 PM

The entire 'Female victims are more important than male victims because patriarchy' argument that so many people seem to hold when discussing domestic violence.

'I appreciate you have just been stabbed by your wife but if it wasn't for the patriarchy this probably wouldn't have happened.'

'It's unfortunate that your girlfriend regularly hits you and controls who you can see and speak to but women have had it much worse than that.'

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Wry, on 29 February 2012 - 10:50 AM, said:

And you're not complaining, you're criticizing. It's a side-effect of being better than everyone else, I get it sometimes too.

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#16961 Gothos

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Posted 12 March 2015 - 12:50 PM

Raymond Luxury Yacht, on 12 March 2015 - 04:14 AM, said:

Life is just kind if shit right now. Lost my job. Said some awful shit to my sister in jest, serious dark humor, that she took seriously and now my whole family thinks I am the worst of the assholes. I let my wife and son go visit her parents without me, when we made the plans I was expecting this to be a little vacation for me. Instead all I want to do is see them and I feel guilty she had to fly with the baby alone. Having a hard time finding work that fits my needs. At the bottom of it all I am the root of all my problems, which is a rough feeling.

I know the place you're in, at least similar. Things will eventually get better if you keep at it (or you die).

My own groove is messed with by feeling rather redundant in my work life. I've no real skills to speak of that would be applicable in anything I'd *want* to do. I've my languages and quite a bit of knowledge in windows/doors branch of construction, but it's all just supposed to be temporary. Now I've been stuck here for a year and 5 months (14 years and 3 months, Lester!) and the job market doesn't seem to offer anything suitable, or if it does - I fall short and not even get interviews. I have resolved to change the career path and am learning JS now, with the longer-term goal of Unity, C# and C++, but it's all so distant right now. I'm feeling stuck again.

For a change, my personal life is pretty fucking awesome right now, I'd say. I just need something that I like to do as employment and I'll be set.

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.

#16962 HiddenOne

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Posted 12 March 2015 - 01:16 PM

No one is allowed to be happy in personal life and professional life at the same time, Gothos. (joke) Have you looked into a job estimating for a commercial door/window/storefront company? That is a pretty good racket. If you are handy with tools, you can also do installs and always have some work. If you live in a decent sized city, there should be plenty of this kind of work. Also, learn to be a locksmith, it goes together well.

@ RLY - try not to get depressed, man. If you are your own enemy, and you recognize it, then start changing that behavior. I have been in that state before. Sometimes manual labor can take your mind off of it, but it always takes time. The whole 'looking for work' thing is a soul killer.

HiddenOne. You son of a bitch. You slimy, skulking, low-posting scumbag. You knew it would come to this. Roundabout, maybe. Tortuous, certainly. But here we are, you and me again. I started the train on you so many many hours ago, and now I'm going to finish it. Die HO. Die. This is for last time, and this is for this game too. This is for all the people who died to your backstabbing, treacherous, "I sure don't know what's going on around here" filthy lying, deceitful ways. You son of a bitch. Whatever happens, this is justice. For me, this is justice. Vote HiddenOne Finally, I am at peace.

#16963 Maark Abbott

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Posted 12 March 2015 - 03:11 PM

Loki, on 12 March 2015 - 12:42 PM, said:

How dare you question the New Order, befouled purveyor of the menocentric maleocracy!

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#16964 Maark Abbott

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Posted 12 March 2015 - 03:12 PM

But in seriousness I get what you're saying. It has to swing both ways.

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#16965 DeadHedge

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Posted 12 March 2015 - 03:53 PM

Terry pratchet has died. Aged only 66. The world has lost a great writer

http://m.bbc.co.uk/n...t-arts-31858156

Link to bbc news story.

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#16966 Fid

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Posted 12 March 2015 - 03:58 PM

DeadHedge, on 12 March 2015 - 03:53 PM, said:

Terry pratchet has died. Aged only 66. The world has lost a great writer

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#16967 Loki

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Posted 12 March 2015 - 08:04 PM

I have a sesame seed stuck between two teeth that my tongue can't dislodge.

And I'm too committed to being lazy to get up and find a toothpick.

Wry, on 29 February 2012 - 10:50 AM, said:

And you're not complaining, you're criticizing. It's a side-effect of being better than everyone else, I get it sometimes too.

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#16968 TheRetiredBridgeburner

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Posted 12 March 2015 - 08:09 PM

DeadHedge, on 12 March 2015 - 03:53 PM, said:

Terry pratchet has died. Aged only 66. The world has lost a great writer

http://m.bbc.co.uk/n...t-arts-31858156

Link to bbc news story.

This seriously messed with my groove when I came out of work today and found out. Reading the news swiftly followed by his Twitter account caused rather a lot of emotion.

A friend summed it up beautifully on Facebook:

"Today a small, wide-brimmed hat sits alone pining for the great imagination that once filled it."

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#16969 Abyss

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Posted 13 March 2015 - 02:31 AM

Loki, on 12 March 2015 - 08:04 PM, said:

I have a sesame seed stuck between two teeth that my tongue can't dislodge.

And I'm too committed to being lazy to get up and find a toothpick.

Try some scissors.
Or a machete. ...what could possibly go wrong?

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#16970 Morgoth

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Posted 13 March 2015 - 11:38 AM

Thanks for the suppport guys. Life is rough but it'll improve eventually. I realise the adult choice is to keep some semblance of contact, but that's not going to happen any time soon I think.

Raymond Luxury Yacht, on 12 March 2015 - 04:14 AM, said:

It'll get better, RLY. That sounds shitty but you'll have a new and better job and think back on this time as the moment your life changed for the better :sofa:

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#16971 Puck

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Posted 14 March 2015 - 11:56 AM

My eyes and runny nose tell me: it's almost hayfever season. Basically around the corner. Another nice day and shit's going to be blooming all over the place. Hurray...

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#16972 Andorion

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Posted 15 March 2015 - 01:56 AM

Yup. Noticed. Everybody caught hay fever?

#16973 EmperorMagus

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Posted 15 March 2015 - 04:41 AM

Halfway through a term paper and have exactly no idea what I'm going to write next. Exhausted every idea in my brain. This sucks.

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Pro patria mori
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#16974 Andorion

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Posted 15 March 2015 - 04:53 AM

EmperorMagus, on 15 March 2015 - 04:41 AM, said:

Halfway through a term paper and have exactly no idea what I'm going to write next. Exhausted every idea in my brain. This sucks.

Get up. Take a shower. Then take a walk. Or lie down a bit. Hammering away at the same thing does not really work if you are blanking.

#16975 worry

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Posted 15 March 2015 - 06:50 AM

If you start the second half with "On the other hand..." and do a point-by-point counterargument, that'll take care of the rest.

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#16976 EmperorMagus

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Posted 15 March 2015 - 06:59 AM

Andorion, on 15 March 2015 - 04:53 AM, said:

EmperorMagus, on 15 March 2015 - 04:41 AM, said:

Halfway through a term paper and have exactly no idea what I'm going to write next. Exhausted every idea in my brain. This sucks.

Get up. Take a shower. Then take a walk. Or lie down a bit. Hammering away at the same thing does not really work if you are blanking.

I posted this after the "fuck this shit" moment when I just gave up for the day . :sofa:

I'm worried about tomorrow.

worry, on 15 March 2015 - 06:50 AM, said:

If you start the second half with "On the other hand..." and do a point-by-point counterargument, that'll take care of the rest.

Not really applicable here. I can assure you I'm aware of every single trick there is to pad a paper to the proper size.

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#16977 Gnaw

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Posted 15 March 2015 - 07:22 AM

EmperorMagus, on 15 March 2015 - 06:59 AM, said:

Not really applicable here. I can assure you I'm aware of every single trick there is to pad a paper to the proper size.

Baloney. You're not that old. :sofa:

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#16978 EmperorMagus

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Posted 15 March 2015 - 08:32 AM

Gnaw, on 15 March 2015 - 07:22 AM, said:

EmperorMagus, on 15 March 2015 - 06:59 AM, said:

Not really applicable here. I can assure you I'm aware of every single trick there is to pad a paper to the proper size.

Baloney. You're not that old. :sofa:

I had to google that word.

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#16979 Andorion

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Posted 17 March 2015 - 05:23 PM

Normally sitting beside an AC would be a good thing for me, what with afternon temperatures at 35 C . BUt this particular AC, which I am sure was bewitched kept on blowing cold air straight into my ear, no matter how many adjustments were made or what I did. Now I have a head cold complete with a throbbing headache